To buy for grandparent on Mother’s Day??

[doneitagain12]

I’m a FTM, and while browsing for cards/gifts for my own mum for Mother’s Day, I’ve come across multiple cards/gifts to Nan/Nana/grandmother etc.
And now I’m questioning if I need to also buy a gift/card from my child to my mother too? Is this the norm??

I will add - she’s a fantastic mum and Nana, she deserves the world!!
But never realised this was a thing before or is it just another way for them to milk more money out of a celebrated day…

Thank you.

It's a way for shops to make more money. I was in a shop the other day and saw cards for aunts and cat mum and dog mum!

I never bought for my mum from my children. I always got her a card and present from myself. My children are adults now anyway so not sure it was even a thing for nans on mother's day then.

Some do and some dont. In my family we don't buy for grandmother's but I know some that do.

For us it's mothers day, so it's for your mother. My son buys for me, I buy for my mam and she used to buy for her mam.

I think there was a ‘grandparents’ day invented, but not on the same day as Mother’s Day. Your mum will get a card from you surely? And your MIL will get one from your husband presumably? They don’t need another one, I think it might devalue the day - you would start sending one to aunts etc?!

Just give them lovely cards on their birthdays from their grandchild.

Just buy your mum a card it is fine, you don't have to do anything you don't want to.

And now I’m questioning if I need to also buy a gift/card from my child to my mother too?

From your child, to your mother in addition to yours? No, absolutely not. You can write in the card, thank you for all that you do for DD.

The Grandmother cards are there for children raised by grandparents because technically your grandmother isn't your mother but she's been the one doing all the mothering.

Deleted . I thought full time mum

Not being in this position before?

First time mum!!

Sorry I though full time mum!

The funny thing is I never realised grandchildren buying for their grandmother’s wasn’t the done thing until I came into Mumsnet. I’m 59 and I used always to make a card for each of my grandmothers when I was a child. And buy a small bunch of flowers for the one with whom we lived. Then when I had my own children I encouraged them to make cards for my mother and mother in law. I never questioned it. But it’s really up to each family what they want to do.

I've never came across grandchildren buying for their grandmother’s either and yes, it's certainly a way to make more money. It's up to you to decide, though. Growing up I would make a card for my mom and she would get something for her mother, so there were no gifts from me for the grandma, but then again, it's up to you. Doing something sweet is always nice and you don't have to exactly buy the card, you can make one yourself or can make a Mother's day video with family photos and pictures of your mom with grandkids (something like in here), etc.

I do for both their nan and gran. It is in no way expected but they love and get a lot of love back from these women. I see no harm in celebrating them and it takes nothing away from me as their mum. The kids usually make cards for them and mil keeps them. We tend to give my mum a box of chocolate, biscuits, brownies etc from the kids whereas mother in law gets flowers. We live further away from my mum so are unlikely to see her on the day whereas we do usually see mum in law.

It's completely up to you. My teenage daughter gets a card and a small gift for my mom - I give her the money for it to be fair but she sorts it.

It could be seen that it's just a commercial thing, but we are a family who like a bit of sentiment, and it makes it more of an occasion so I see no problem with it!.

But you shouldn't feel obliged to do it.