To do fuck all today?

[Cryingatthegym]

I absolutely cannot be bothered to do anything or go anywhere today. Life is so stressful at the moment - hectic full time job, currently a lone parent to 3 kids, issues with DD getting bullied at school, ongoing safeguarding/child arrangement issues with my abusive ex and the children.

AIBU just to stay in the house today with the kids and chill in our pyjamas? I feel so completely drained, like I just want to stay in bed all day. But I also feel really guilty and like we should all be outside making the most of the spring weather and worry that it's bad for the kids to be stuck in all day.

AIBU to have a PJ day? Or do I need to suck it up and get out in the sunshine?

Have whatever day you want or need.

Peeing down here so no sign of spring. Have your PJs day. Quite right.

No kids, currently going through potentially another ivf failure. I know I should be in garden, making the most of sunshine but I’m under my blanket with my three dogs. And here I shall stay. Sending you love.

Do what is right for you and your children
No one is going to judge you; none of us is Superwoman, we need rest

You are not unreasonable at all to stay home. Depending on the ages/temperament of your children, I’d probably be inclined to quickly get dressed and whisk them out just for an hour either to the park or to a cafe. Then head home for a cosy day. But you would not be unreasonable just to stay home if you think the children will be ok indoors all day.

Oh, thank you for the lovely supportive messages everyone. Kids are happy enough so far, but I just feel like I'm letting them down if we don't go out. But it's so exhausting to be functioning at such a high level all of the time, I feel like I've hit a bit of a wall this weekend.

Will try to lean into it and enjoy some cosy downtime with the kids instead of beating myself up.

@PlanBFertility26 sending you love and hope

Nothing wrong with a PJ day. Do what works for you and ignore any mum guilt. You’ll benefit from resting a lot more than stressing about trying to persuade DC’s to get dressed. Films or devices for a day won’t harm anyone.

Kids don't need to be constantly entertained and taken out.It's good for you and them to just be sometimes.

I actually think this is totally normal. Racing around and non stop activity is not how we are designed to live. Even energetic children need to learn to appreciate the restorative effect of down time.

I’m enjoying just pottering around at home today. I’m on my third load of laundry, have changed one of the beds, and have helped dd sort her bedroom out as it was her birthday this week and she needed to be able to put the new stuff away. Will cook a roast later.

Dd also wants a home day, dh and ds have gone out, ds1 appeared briefly to eat and has also gone out. I don’t know why I always feel guilty about wanting to stay at home though!

I saw a tik tok recently that said we need to stop feeling bad for having a day of rest. We are allowed to rest, we don’t have to be ‘doing’ all the time and feel guilty when we don’t. We need to stop justifying to ourselves just resting! It’s ok.

And I totally agree.

This is very good advice! Thank you

If you have a garden then make tHem play in that or give them a smart phone so they can play outwith neighbours kids