Anyone else feeling low?

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Have woken up this morning feeling very low. Lots of work stress and overwhelm and I think I'm lonely too as no partner or kids . I'm late 40s. Got lots of nice friends and a busy life but going through a very low spot at the moment . Friend is picking me up soon for a shopping trip which will be nice and I definitely need to get out and about and not wallow . Anyone else feeling similar and we can chat?

I’m not feeling low but I’m happy to chat (and bump your thread up). Hopefully today will be another sunny one - a bit of Vit D and the company of a friend later will give you a boost. Do you want to tell us about the work stress?

It’s good you’re acknowledging how you’re feeling. When I feel like this, I try to either get outside into the fresh air or do some exercise to get my endorphins going which really does help. But also letting yourself have a wallow can be effective too, it can be exhausting trying to pull yourself out of feeling low. I’m not sure if that helps but you’re definitely not alone in how you’re feeling OP.

Feeling very similar to you OP, yesterday was rubbish for me. I'm mid 40s and no partner or kids and it just gets a bit lonely doesn't it? I've got some lovely friends and I'll go visit my mum today, but it would be nice just to have that one person that wants to spend time with you.

The weather isn't helping either, raining where I am again today 😒

I really resonate with the exhausting bit. I work so hard to manage my mental health which then overfill my brain and I get overwhelmed...

My work stress is hard . I'm a teacher who has been brought in to manages a team and they are very difficult and are bullying me. (Sounds embarrassing to say)

I feel you op.

sometimes I have a chat with copilot!

I have a good life but having an adult at home would be nice.

I am similar age - do have kids but they go to their dads.

I think we are a hard generation as we are modern women with modern expectations but men our age are stuck in the past and just not up to being good partners . At least I hope it’s our generation and that future generations of men are better able to be respectful partners.

I hope you have a good day op.

I’m low too.

I was low. What helped yesterday was a browse around the shops and 2 coffee shops with a friend for a catch up.

Sorry you’re feeling like this OP. I am too. Mine is purely work - stress and burnout. Bosses aren’t bothered as they have their own problems. Can’t move jobs either as it’s so niche, and I’ve done it for more than 20 years so couldn’t afford the pay drop to retrain. And I’m in the pension trap.

Hope you enjoy your shopping trip even if it’s a just a distraction for the day.

Sorry to hear you’re feeling low, op. Teaching is brutal isn’t it? I’m 30 years in and feel like it’s taking over my life. I just can’t switch off my thoughts at all.
My health anxiety is raging at the min,I miss my dc as they’re both away at uni and although I have a lovely dh, we have little in common any more.
I feel like I get no real enjoyment from anything. So in answer to your question…yes, I’m also feeling low 🙈

I'm also having hot flushes and feeling like every piece of clothing I own is awful. Can you tell menopause is kicking me as well?
Don't need HRT solutions as I can't take it (definitely confirmed by health professionals not just my thoughts)

Yeah, I’m fed up too. Struggling to adapt in a new job and feeling overwhelmed, not helped by poor sleep and perimenopausal brain fog. ☹️

Sorry to hear you are feeling low today OP. It sounds as if the stress from your job is definitely impacting your mood and that is completely understandable as we spend so much of our time in work. Chuck in some perimenopause symptoms too and it is a lot.

It is great you are going out with your friend shopping. I hope you have a great time and buy some lovely bits for your wardrobe.

For various reasons I am feeling low and anxious. I am trying to get the motivation to do something about it but the cycle is hard to break!

I just wanted you to know you are not alone!

Hey OP 👋 yes am similar this morning. Personal and work stress piled up last month or so, DH been really ill on top of established disabilities and care needs, then I myself had a bad bug last week and had to take a day off work leaving me with more anxiety for returning tomorrow. Also my dads birthday today and first without him, passed last year. Its horrible to wake up feeling this way especially on a Sunday....just to let you know you're not alone

OP don't be saying it feels embarrassing to acknowledge that you are being bullied.
No one has a super power that makes them immune to targeted nastyness.
And if they are immune what kind of person are they ?
Trump ?

Fully sympathise on the work stress. I am on week 9 of work turmoil and it's only getting worse.
I am only slightly at peace on Saturday's, as I have the Sunday buffer before it all starts again.
Sunday's are spent with full on dread of the next day, plus the life admin to get ready for the week ahead.
But I will count my blessings. Currently lounging in bed with my 8 year old next to me. Will need to make a move so as not to waste the day.

Ah menopause also such a big factor. I note what you've said about HRT, I had to fight 4 years for it, I see what you've said about you won't be able to have it. I've also found magnesium really helpful in the past, not a magic cure but can help especially with some of the night time anxiety

Not a great weekend here either.. I've had D&V since Friday, do feel a bit better this morning, but it definitely brings home that there's no one around for me when I'm ill. I'm mid 50s, have a job that I love, but seem to have had a lot of emails this week about my renewals that are going up in price, so my payrise has just been swallowed up by those increases. Just feel sometimes that I'm not getting anywhere fast!!
Not interested in finding a partner, but sometimes just shouldering the bills, the house, and general life on my own, gets me down a bit

Solidarity all. I'm mid shop at the moment having a coffee so will update when home

Im sorry OP, life sounds pretty tough at work so I'm not surprised you're feeling it.

If you think this might be veering towards depression, check in with your GP, or depending on your area you might be able to self-refer for CBT or talking therapies.

If its just a bleurgh time, then I find some nice sensory things can help. Beautifully scented bath oil, soft fleecy socks, delicious bar of chocolate, a big colourful bunch of fresh flowers for the house. One of mine is the posh European hand soap you get in TK Maxx that only cost a couple of quid, but feel really luxurious to use. Getting back just to nice sensations can help take you out of your head a little.

I feel it OP. Also in my 40s. I have a good life overall but there is an underlying gloom sometimes that I can't shake, like I am supposed to be somewhere else living a different existence. It comes and goes. I really struggle to make decisions and get myself together to do more than plod on day to day.