Is Saturday night family night in your house?

[Whatsagizmo]

It was in mine growing up…..Gladiators, Blind date, James Bond. My dad would ask us all what we wanted and nip to the off licence as a treat. I always chose a packet of crisps, he’d get mum a box of Terrys All Gold chocolates…simple things.
I like to sort of make Saturday fun for Dd, 7, too.
She had a friend over for a few hours, he left, then we played games, made pizza & had popcorn watching Britain’s Got talent.
Dh is sometimes there, but not really there, if that makes sense? He goes on his phone or to the toilet and then got his coat on to go to his friends house, so it was just me & Dd

Aibu to wish he’d at least wait until she’s in bed and participate and enjoy family time for Dd?

No that sounds more like Sunday, when we would usually go out for a drive to a pub outside London unless my parents were in the country then we’d have Sunday lunch and family time after. A movie or something before putting the kids to bed. Saturdays were filled with outside activities like ballet/football/netball/swimming…doing chores and the like. Might even go out in the evening!
But yea I get your point about being there but not really participating sometimes during family times, though my DH would not go out to visit a friend! But he might be distracted by a work issue or something.

We try and do Sunday as a family day, but I understand what you mean about the there but not really there. Does he know that you feel like Saturday night is family time? It might be different from his own upbringing.

No. It wasn't for us growing up, and wasn't for our dc when they were small.

Sometimes we might all be in, and in different rooms. Sometimes in together. Sometimes different people wouldn't be there because they were doing something else.
Nothing sacred about the fact it is a Saturday.

I mean, at 7 they wouldn't be up that late anyway.

I haven't voted as it isn't unreasonable for another family to all decide together they want to make it a family night, but your question asks if it is for us - to which the answer (for me) is no - and that isn't unreasonable either.

It was for me and my DH is similarly never really present...he just doesn't enjoy it the way i do. I dont think YABU but I just do that stuff on my own with the kids.