...feel resentment at paying them alimony after divorce?
Do you pay alimony? If so, is it a lot? How do you feel about it?
I'm leaving what had become quite an abusive marriage because of my ex's illness only to find that I am ordered to give him all of my money until retirement, even though I've custody of our two kids and don't get a penny from him. He just sits around in his flat all day believing he's being targeted and sending me abusive messages. I can't pay for activities for the children, birthdays, holidays, nothing...
Maybe I need a new mindset. I get that he's ill. But I just don't see how the court can justify bringing the children to nothing, or how I'm supposed to support the person who was actually physically and verbally abusive towards me.