DS is diagnosed ASD and we are awaiting an ADHD assessment. He has quite a lot of sensory processing issues too. Up until about 6 months ago things were fairly easy to manage, he would have meltdowns and get aggressive etc but it was fairly rare and he was easy to calm down. Since starting in year 2 it’s been a whole different story, he’s finding school really difficult to manage and is constantly in trouble. He’s then coming home so disregulated that we are just having constant meltdowns.
It’s got to a point that every little thing is making him angry every day and it takes sooo long to calm him down. He lashes out constantly and I have to have eyes in the back of my head to make sure he doesn’t hurt his sister or cause too much damage to the house etc. Even planning days out that he would normally love have become hard work because he gets too overwhelmed. It’s like he’s in a constant heightened state from school so any little thing that normally wouldn’t faze him is triggering him.
it doesn’t help that I’m basically dealing with it on my own because DH is also autistic and the two of them clash so much that DH is no help in situations at all. I’m just feeling really sad to be honest, I don’t know what I can do to make things better for DS and I know he hates feeling like this as when he’s calm he often cries and asks why he feels different to other people. I’m also exhausted.
Anyone been through similar and got any tips?