I’m a SAHM. I have an adult son icing in an apartment we own in the city (he pays a nominal rent about 1/3 market value. ) I have a daughter mid 20’s lives at home rent free in a car we gave her to commute to Uni. She’s in final year of a course which she took a year out from. We pay for all her food and bought her the car. She works in retail to pay for her own costs eg entertainment and petrol. We also have 2 teenagers in lower half of senior school. we usually have a family holiday in the summer which she chooses to come on once we decide where we are going. She didn’t come last year because we were staying in Uk.
Husband and I try to get a long weekend city break in once per year two just the two of us. We have done this the last 4 years as a treat for each other instead of Christmas presents. Usually my sister or his sister move in for few days to do school runs and make sure everyone eats.
This year, two eldest are going to mind the teens and do school runs etc (daughter hates when aunts come to stay as she feels her space is invaded.) she has been making jabs about this trip which is next week. “Oh it’s well for you that you can afford to go to “ city break”
She said it’s too much what I’ve asked her and her brother to do. That I just expect every one to stop what they are doing so I can go on holiday.
Im so gutted to hear it. I bend over backwards for all my children. I’m a carer for my mother who has dementia and I’ve had to arrange for extra carers for her while I’m away. I feel exhausted I’m really looking forward to the break.
I need some perspective? Is it wrong to ask them
to
stay at home for 4 days while we go away. They won’t have any costs we will make sure money is left. Am I selfish? Am I being unreasonable for going away? aIbu