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AIBU?

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To wish people would leave me alone and mind their own business?

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kayzisexpecting · 16/06/2008 19:05

Just popped to the shop. On the way there an oldish man was staring at me from the other side of the road and all the time he crossed over. He was with his wife. When he got to my side he said to me "Why do you think you can walk along with your head held high and smiling?"
I said "what?" with literally this look on my face. To which he said "How can you pregnant single teenage mums look so pleased with yourself? You'll only end up on Jeffery Kyle(whoooooooo?) when that baby is born trying to find out who it belongs too."

I went pretty mad and had a go at him telling him I hadn't been a teenageer for 3 years, had been married for nearly 2 and that he should mind his own fucking business and untuck his trousers from his socks.

I also told his DW to get a divorce!!!

I am so , ed and

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TheArmadillo · 16/06/2008 19:06

what a fucker.

I would have been

2point4kids · 16/06/2008 19:07

People like that are infuriating arseholes.
At the end of the day though, he has to live with being a twat so its his problem.
Find out where he lives and post a turd through his letter box!

FromGirders · 16/06/2008 19:08

Good for you at giving as good as you got.
Looking on the bright side, I might be pleased to be mistaken for a teenager!

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kayzisexpecting · 16/06/2008 19:08

I don't know if I want to scream or cry right now. DH is at work so I can't rant at him about it. But it wouldn't of happened if he wasn't at work.

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Twelvelegs · 16/06/2008 19:09

Perhaps you should have responded that this was your seventh child, seventh father too but thanks for his tax contributions as you have a massive house , hence your smile!!!

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kayzisexpecting · 16/06/2008 19:10

LOL Twelvelegs. I might do that if it happens again.

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McDreamy · 16/06/2008 19:11

I was just about to write this is one of those situations when you could have come out with so many uick/funny/cutting responses with a bit of hindsight!!!!

DarthVader · 16/06/2008 19:11

What an old git, outrageous. You stood up for yourself pretty well by the sounds of it, well done! Have you got any comments prepared for next time you see this charmer?

Cicatrice · 16/06/2008 19:12

Blimey that is astoundingly rude.And utterly unnecessary. Why do some people feel the need to share all their negative opinions they tend to say that they are just being honest but they never seem to want to tell people anything nice!

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kayzisexpecting · 16/06/2008 19:12

It is McDreamy. I might have to write loads down and put them in my handbag.

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DarthVader · 16/06/2008 19:15

Next time just speak to his wife and ask sympathetically "does he have problems?"

LoveMyGirls · 16/06/2008 19:15

Even if you were a teenager expecting a baby it doesn't mean he can speak like that, every baby is precious and deserves to be tresured and a right to come into this world with the mother being happy about its exsistence imo.

Kimi · 16/06/2008 19:16

Most old people are bitter as they are nearer to death then life and spent most of their lives doing the right thing and not living....

Just think his poor wife has to live with the arsehole.... maybe it was time for his pills/nap/alcohol

EffiePerine · 16/06/2008 19:17

What a nasty, vicious old man. He crossed the road to berate you just because you looked happy? Arsehole. Sorry you've had to put up with this

madamez · 16/06/2008 19:17

Try 'Just cos your cock doesn't work any more, shouldn't make you bitter.' Disgusting old sod, probably the sort who threw his own daughter out of the house for getting pregnant or something.

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kayzisexpecting · 16/06/2008 19:18

His wife did stand there looking like she wanted to fall into a hole.

He did also ask when the last time DS saw his Dad was?

Urm about half 2 this afternoon before my DH went to work!

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southeastastra · 16/06/2008 19:18

when i was pg at 23 someone actually told me (on the tube) they were sorry that i was pregnant. weird people out there.

sarah293 · 16/06/2008 19:19

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pointydog · 16/06/2008 19:27

If someone did actually say this to you, he has obviously lost quite a few marbles. Silence would have been far more dignified.

NomDePlume · 16/06/2008 19:29

what a charmer.

duchesse · 16/06/2008 19:30

I was in Sainsbury's three weeks after the birth of number 3, with said baby, daughter (aged 2 yrs 3 mths) and son aged 4 yrs 1 mth. Hanging around in the baby aisle, son and daughter decided we had to have a jar of baby food for the baby and accidentally dropped it on the floor. Before I had had time to look around for a member of staff to apologise, some nosey mare concerned bystander came up to me and tried to explain to me about Depro-Provera (sp?). After she'd waxed lyrical about "one shot in the bum and you don't have to think about it for three months", I (far more calmly than I felt) told her that my husband and I were planning on having 4, thank you very much. Then I flounced went off to find a staff member before someone slipped on the baby food and glass.

Hope she's reading this- if it's any consolation to her, we never did manage that 4th child, but thanks for the advice on how to avoid it. Rude cow.

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kayzisexpecting · 16/06/2008 19:31

pointydog, you are obviously much more restrained than me. I refuse to be spoken to like that and just take it.

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blossomsmine · 16/06/2008 20:48

When i was about 23 (i was always told by friend i looked very young for my age) i was in Sainsburys with my two children, then aged 1 and 2 when this man walked up to me and said "people like you make me sick" Well i was so shocked and then had a little think to try and work out what he was on about.....I had put my two year old in the actual food part of the trolley (i know...i wouldn't do it now) and wondered if that was what he was on about. So i followed him round the shop and noticed him give one of his children a bag of crisps to eat before they had paid for him so i told him "people like you make ME sick" then stomped off.....But i have always wondered what he was on about, do you think it was because i looked like a young mum too????
How dare they speak to you like that!

minouminou · 16/06/2008 20:57

It's just unreal. Sorry this happened to you, and FWIW, Kayz, this may make you feel better, the old git may be in the first stages of dementia, as this can make people behave in antisocial ways.
Good for you for giving him some back and putting him in his place.
I recently found out that when we moved in here, other mums (late 30's and up) thought DP and I were in our early 20's (we're in our late 30's too!), and were rather frosty towards us, as round here, having kids in your 20's is like having them while you're in your early teens!
BTW........this misapprehension among our neighbours is more to do with our demeanour and dress....not necessarily because we've discovered the fount of eternal youth.

duchesse · 16/06/2008 21:02

Forgot to say I was 29 but probably looked quite a bit younger.

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