Time to wash my hands?

[TrashyTash]

So, here's the situation. I'm a single woman in my 50s with two slightly younger siblings. Middle sibling is SEN and although she lives independently she requires a level of support. She forgets to pay bills, loses purses, bags and bus passes, and would probably give all her money away to the first Street person who asked her. In addition our mother is disabled and housebound. I receive a small Carers allowance for looking after her in addition to working part time. My life is running around after the pair or them. I have no life of my own and seriously wondering how long I can go on for?

I don’t get what that’s got to do with washing your hands ?

Anyway- you’re not obligated to look after anyone . If you don’t want to do it, then don’t

Get both relatives a care needs assessment each to if they qualify for any social services support - funded , or self funded if they have large savings .

You never heard of the phrase ? It means to give up!

Sounds like your sibling isn’t really able to live independently, if she constantly loses things and doesn’t really understand money. What are her living arrangements, does she have a social/key worker? What about your youngest sibling, do they share the burden?

Surely some support could be put in place for your sibling? Does she have a social worker? You can call adult social services and ask for a care needs assessment.

The situation is that our youngest sibling doesn't have any contact with the middle sibling, although she is in regular contact with me. She helps with Mum, when she can, but does take Mum to all of her hospital appointments which I am very grateful for. Middle sister has a support worker. I've done this to stop my Mum worrying about my sister, and to be honest to keep the peace. Middle sister is also rude and spiteful to me at times. I know Social Services should be involved but it's not that easy to get the support and even so my Mum doesn't want 'strangers knowing our business'.

Thankyou, I've outlined the situation in my post below.

Thankyou for all your messages and advice. I'm in the process of cutting my sister off as I can't deal with her any more. She was very spiteful to me last week, when I was laid up with flu, and has said she's never liked me, I'm a nosey bitch and she's glad I'm sick.