Frankly, I don’t know if I’m right to feel a bit upset about this, or if I’m just being an entitled drama queen, but I’m pregnant, hormonal, and feeling sorry for myself tonight.
I was born and raised abroad (North African country) with my brother, my mum and my British dad.
I moved to England when I was 19, and my dad moved back to Scotland a few years later, I was happy as it meant I now had family in the UK, and my kids had their granddad around.
I wasn’t very close to my dad growing up, but there was never any animosity between us, we just stopped seeing each other as much when I was a teen after my parents got a divorce, but I thought we had got closer in adulthood, we would speak on the phone to each other a few times a week, etc…
Lately he’s been ignoring my requests to come visit me or for my family and I to come visit him, at first he’d make up excuses, but then he’d just dodge my messages altogether.
Turns out he had moved back to North Africa and lied to me about it! He’d Tell me how cold the weather was in Scotland, and that he was enjoying his snowy walks!
My mum and aunt first spotted him on the street a few months back, my mum asked me about it and I said there was no way it was him and it was probably someone who looked similar. Then, a few days ago, my brother saw him. My mum called him, they met up for coffee and he told her he had been back since October.
He texted me to tell me that the reason he lied to me was because he had fallen out with my mum and brother and swore to himself he wouldn’t tell them he had moved back, so he didn’t tell me either so I wouldn’t tell them/have to lie to them.
Would you be happy with that explanation, or would you be a bit miffed?
I dont mind that he’s moved, it’s obviously his life and his choice, and I told him that it was okay and that I hope he’s having a nice time, but AIBU to be a secretly a bit hurt that he has lied to me?
Thank you