To feel down with the relentless grind of it all?

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I’m probably just having a bad day and possibly quite hormonal but aibu to just feel fed up with the relentless grind of life? Today was my day off and tbf I have had a difficult week at work but I was really looking forward to having a break to relax and just rest but it was no different than a working day! Washing, cleaning, cooking, walking the dog by the time I get done with all the chores I feel like I had no down time left! I just want a day to do nothing or to just do hobbies and not do any ‘house’ work but there is always something! I don’t even have kids at home and DP is fantastic and does more than his fair share but I ended up crying on the sofa this afternoon because I just want a day where nothing is expected of me and I can jusy do what I want?

Aibu? Is this all there is to life? Slogging away at work all week and then doing all the stuff I don’t have the energy for during work days on my days off? Writing it all down I realise I am absolutely being unreasonable and I am extremely privileged to be in the position I’m in but I guess I’m just tired and need to vent 😞

You could outsource all of those things?

I know what you mean. Life circs, the relentless rain and not being well have all contributed to this for me. Things are very likely to pick up but be nice to yourself while you're feeling like this. Can you plan to actually do the day of nothing next week, and ignore the stuff waiting?

Op... I'm not being funny but ultimately you chose to do those things. If they could have waited until you got home from work then they could have waited for you to come home from a fulfilling and restful day out. Or you and your dp could have negotiated to get things in hand the night before so you could relax on your day off.

I'm guessing that the issue is either that your dp doesn't do as much as you do in reality, they make you feel bad for having a lazy day or you guilt trip yourself.

Really it's about priorities- if you make having a day to do literally nothing a priority then there's no reason I can see why you wouldn't be able to do that, especially with a little planning. That could have been today but you prioritised getting on top of other things instead.

I find i have to create those breaks.

Cooking is a easy win - have a ready meal one night, or something easy like a shop bought soup & crusty bread.

Or batch cook things like casserole or curry and freeze a few portions so that you have a meal where you just have to heat it up.

Pay a local teenager to walk the dog or do borrowmydoggy?

Cap cleaning time. Don't try and do it all - tell yourself you'll do an hour then have time for yourself.

none of the things you listed are must do / life threatening if you didn’t do them.( apart from possibly taking the dog for a walk but that is probably a good way to get some fresh air and time out of the house) . It’s ok to give yourself permission to ignore the hoovering etc. for one day and give yourself a break. Took me years to manage it as I always felt guilty but I have now and sometimes I do decide to spend the day doing my hobby instead and it came as quite a surprise to discover the world didn’t stop turning because I ignored the ironing or the cleaning for a day 🙂. Be kind to yourself it is ok to take time out for you .

YABU, purely for the fact that if you don’t have kids and all the hard work of that, you should be able to organise your life, and have the energy, to get at least some of those chores done on your working days leaving you time free to yourself to enjoy your days off.

If you’re working yourself into the ground then hopefully you earn enough to get a cleaner. There’s no shame in outsourcing the grind if you can 😊.

I plan in lazy days where I tell dh I’m doing nothing. If he chooses to put a wash on etc then fine but I will not feel guilty. But then I enjoy walking the dog and find that relaxing so wouldn’t see that as part of the grind.