We live in a terrace and about two years ago, new neighbours moved in. Before that we had a lovely neighbour, and then it was sold to a developer who ripped out the house to brick. Construction 7 days a week 12 hours a day for three months. It was horrendous. That's another thread.
Anyway, new neighbours moved in, added cameras everywhere, plus one that overlooked our back garden that can record sound and has live view. I was not happy about this because I felt my kids couldn't be in my own garden.
Long story short, our relationship has completely soured. The woman is loud and shouts a lot. She would bang on the wall if my kids were crying (not a regular thing, I promise), started blasting out music and TV when my kids were crying, singing really loud but awful. Just absolute lack of consideration from her. Her husband is very quiet.
I went round to ask if there was a way forward, as the noise could be heard in every room of my house (never heard other neighbours and get on with them). She responded aggressively that I was paranoid, have issues, just moan for the sake of it, my kids are feral etc.
She watches us from the camera (as it has a blue light when in live mode) but also just stands at the window and watch us park up.
Another reason I know she watches us is that she immediately came out screaming to my husband for putting a bin near her back gate.
She is genuinely insane imo. The type to stalk you because she has nothing else to do. I have considered reporting to the police, but we are moving house, and I didn't want it to come up as an issue.
I've resorted to walking around the house with ear phones in to stop myself from getting upset about it all. I'm constantly stressed that the kids are being noisy, even when they are not. Its affected the kids because they feel they cannot express themselves and Ive stopped play dates and people coming round incase she gets annoyed and starts blasting out music (she has done that)
Any interaction with them has given me panic attacks. I have other things going on (made redundant/health issues), so this has tipped me over the edge.
Anyway, we are moving and I CANNOT WAIT to be away from this. I have not felt comfortable in my home for a very long time. It has been a long slog but were nearly there.
Now to my AIBU
Today, I come home to see my husband talking to the neighbour husband. They haven't spoken to each other in at least a year. We never interact with them now (grey rock), so it was surprising.
I asked my husband what the neighbour wanted. He said nothing but was asking questions...my husband told them where we are moving, the kids school, the issues with the house move...all in 5 minutes. The neighbour husband grew up in that area and knows it very well.
I had a panic attack when he told me this and basically said I'm being ridiculous. The biggest issue I have is that he told him the kids school and basically where we are moving to. I wanted a clean slate. I didn't want them to know anything.
Now hes sulking. I'm just like...why are you sulking? You f*cked up - just own it.
AIBU?