To not feel guilty about trip…

[BungalowBabs]

Mum of two kids, currently going through a separation, but still living together in house with DP and kids. The kids don’t yet know about split (Y7 + Y9 for context).

I’m about to go on a 2 week trip, it’s part fun and part work, travelling long haul and will be + 9 or 10 hours time one. The prospect of no parenting for 2 weeks and not having to deal with ex-DP at all is making me feel giddy after years of dealing with 95% of the mental load (hence the split!).

I am BEYOND EXCITED and I dont feel even 1% guilty at all. Would you??

No why would you?

I wouldn't feel guilty as long as the DC are properly cared for by dp. However, be prepared to miss them dreadfully, maybe more than you expect.

Guilty, no. But I'd miss my kids a lot.

So you are not feeling guilty but seem to want to feel guilty? If you are not feeling guilty stick with that?

Why do people need to complicate things?

A word of warning. I worked away a bit.and travelled a bit. First couple of days are great. But the missing creeps slowly in and is hard.

YANBU. Have fun!

Will he take care of the kids?

Yikes I can't wait for the "my children are 22 and 24 years old and I haven't left them overnight yet" brigade to start chirping here 🤣🤣

Enjoy OP! 🥂

You shouldn't feel guilty as long as they are in safe hands. I wouldn't want to be away from my kids for 2 weeks though, may be 1 at a push but each to their own.

Absolutely would not feel guilty. I'd miss them, definitely, but no guilt

I think just roll with how you feel. It’s good to get some downtime and freedom. What do your kids feel about you going away.

After doing nearly all of the parenting for however many years, sounds like you deserve the break. Enjoy 🥂

Thanks everyone - I suppose there is a feeling that I should feel guilty and I just don’t!

I’ll probably miss them, but not enough that I can’t cope and think it’ll be good for them all to all find a way of being together without me being the bloody manager for everything.

They’ll be spending chunks of time with ex-DP in future once we’ve moved out / moved on, so this feels like a practice run maybe.

Also… YEAHHH sweet freedom😅