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AIBU?

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Anyone else surrounded by people and still feel lonely?

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DontKnowWhyIfeelLonely · 25/02/2026 15:50

I don't know why I do, but I find that I feel lonely a lot of the time. I'm wondering if it is real though, or just in my head, a state of mind.

I have a very nice DH and lovely DC. We have always done a lot together, and even though my DC are teens and adult, we still go out a lot together. I do a lot with my DH, hobbies, fitness and just hanging out.

I have a very sociable job where I work with the public, and my work colleagues are very nice. I have a good few friends there. We don't go out together, but spend lunch together and talk about our lives and help each other out.

Outside of work I don't have a lot of friends. I have 2 very good friends. One lives 2 hours away, and we talk once a week. She is my closest friend, like a sister to me. The other lives in my town and we hang out once a week, or once every 2 weeks.

This is my social calendar this week:

Wed: going to a concert with my DC
Friday: Going out for dinner
Sat am: going for breakfast with a friend

When I look at the above I can see that I am very lucky. However, I still feel lonely. I did lose my mum as a teen and maybe this is the problem, that no matter how many people I am surrounded by, I just have a hole that can't be filled. I just look at other women and they are always going out with their mum and sisters and I can't do this and I have tried to meet other women to fill that gap, but it doesn't always turn out great!

AIBU and does anyone else feel like this?

OP posts:
splash123 · 25/02/2026 20:31

Do you ever actually feel seen and heard? Like your feelings, opinions and the things that happen to you are truly listened to and understood by others? Do you feel loved unconditionally? That might be what youre missing despite the busy social interactions. Like you are putting on a mask with others and caring for them but never feeling truly known?

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