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Shops are becoming quite scary

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ithinkilikethislittlelife · 25/02/2026 12:42

I am starting to become quite nervous in shops, primarily shops that sell food stuffs. Just yesterday I saw two men go through a fire door in my local supermarket that takes them straight into the car park armed with baskets of stolen items. The one basket had steak/meats and the other looked like it was all bottles of vodka. The poor staff trying to wrestle the baskets back and stop the two men from leaving was quite upsetting to witness. This was yesterday. Saturday in my local co op a chap was loitering by the alcohol section while I was shopping. Getting into our car outside I noticed him sprinting past us clutching bottles of alcohol. Me and dh see it all the time now. It’s an epidemic. And it usually seems to be men. And I’m not having it that they are stealing milk for babies or bread for their children. I always see them take alcohol. I don’t know what the answer is but yesterday I was frightened for the staff member who intervened as the one chap raised a bottle of alcohol at her and she then backed off but I totally understood her rage at trying to stop the thieves taking from her place of work. I don’t want my children to witness these thieving people and I don’t want to feel anxious just trying to go about my day and buy food!

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suburburban · 27/02/2026 13:16

GasPanic · 27/02/2026 12:23

Why would people shoplift carrots ?

They cost next to nothing. I got a massive bag from Aldi the other day for 60p.

If you are going to steal stuff, it makes sense to steal stuff that is expensive. Then you can either consume it yourself at much reduced cost or sell it on for more money.

Edit : OK - I get it, they were pretending the carrots were something more expensive.

Edited

Perhaps they had a load of hungry rabbits to feed 😂

Auburngal · 27/02/2026 13:24

GasPanic · 27/02/2026 12:23

Why would people shoplift carrots ?

They cost next to nothing. I got a massive bag from Aldi the other day for 60p.

If you are going to steal stuff, it makes sense to steal stuff that is expensive. Then you can either consume it yourself at much reduced cost or sell it on for more money.

Edit : OK - I get it, they were pretending the carrots were something more expensive.

Edited

They were not stealing carrots but weighing beef joints as carrots. Carrots are 20-30 times cheaper than a beef joint. So a beef joint costing £25 will be around 83p - £1.20 if weighed as carrots

Gingerbeersallround · 27/02/2026 13:47

CrikeyNumpty · 26/02/2026 23:26

The only way to stop crime now is to build more prisons and lock them all up for a long time. People don’t fear the law now. It’s a slap on the wrist, rinse and repeat.

Not sure why they don’t just concede defeat and build loads of prisons for the repeat offenders, just remove them from the society they have no regard for - nothing fancy, just get some shipping containers, kit them out with the basics and just shove them all in there. I know we are supposed to say, oh no, we have to try and rehabilitate them, but it has gone beyond that. Imagine how much nicer if all the low level (as well as high level) crime disappeared from our neighbourhoods. Life would be so much sweeter. Vote winner for me.

I would like my council tax to be spent that way.

Crimefree areas are priceless.

Gingerbeersallround · 27/02/2026 13:56

Council tax is extortionate. They really should give the customer a list so we can choose where our money is directed to.

ThatFairy · 27/02/2026 15:09

I can't get worked up about things that don't affect me. If I saw this happen I would just watch curiously

TheLovelinessOfDemons · 27/02/2026 15:17

WeepingAngelInTheTardis · 25/02/2026 12:52

The answer is to bring down the cost of living.

If it's vodka and steak it's nothing to do with the cost of living.

Auburngal · 27/02/2026 19:07

Then another thing shoplifters try to do. Is to get a refund on something they stole. No receipt - no refund.

missmollygreen · 27/02/2026 19:10

Boomer55 · 25/02/2026 12:54

It’s crime gangs getting funding - nothing to do with the cost of living. One loaf of bread etc is very different from these what people do.

But until the police go in hard and heavy, nothing will change. 🤬

Who do you think buys the stolen food/drink from the thieves?
It is normal people who are feeling the squeeze of the cost of living crisis....

ThiagoJones · 27/02/2026 19:19

ThatFairy · 27/02/2026 15:09

I can't get worked up about things that don't affect me. If I saw this happen I would just watch curiously

It does affect you though, because shoplifting drives up prices for everyone. Unless you’re so wealthy that that doesn’t matter to you, I guess.

ChuckJacksonHanditoverNsoul · 27/02/2026 19:49

Auburngal · 27/02/2026 19:07

Then another thing shoplifters try to do. Is to get a refund on something they stole. No receipt - no refund.

Saw that in boots an out and out junkie trying to spin a yarn his daughter didn't want it..aye aye mine!

I know that he was a junkie I remembered him from Nsoul niters and he had moved up to heroin been on it for decades.

ChuckJacksonHanditoverNsoul · 27/02/2026 19:50

Min not mine ..NE Scottish term.

Alittlewordinyourear · 27/02/2026 20:53

Nothing to do with the cost of living . They are stealing booze, brazenly and aggressive because they are the dregs of society . Of course opening the prisons to let criminals out early via hardly a deterrent . Catch them charge them, put them in orange jumosuits and get them litter picking

mjhx · 28/02/2026 08:30

In my area shop lifting is such a big problem. They now leave empty items for you to take to the till and they will get the item from outback. Even the red bulls!
I was in there last year with my daughter during school hours (she hasn't in and she's 7) we was in this small shop and this man ran passed and barged past me and barged past my daughter and she fell!!
I was lividd!!!!
I ended up skipping his foot so he stumbled and fell and I was shouting at him as well as the staff grabbing this from him.
I'm usually one to mind my own business but the fact he made my daughter cry 😩.

I feel so sorry for the staff. The police do absolutely nothing.

Badbadbunny · 28/02/2026 08:32

missmollygreen · 27/02/2026 19:10

Who do you think buys the stolen food/drink from the thieves?
It is normal people who are feeling the squeeze of the cost of living crisis....

Not really. Lots of people who could afford things like to get it cheap. Take the duty free fags and booze that people buy in pubs and from dodgy shops - most can afford to buy legitimately but want the buzz of not paying the tax. It’s very naive to think it’s only the poorest who buy illegal duty free stuff or pay tradesmen cash in hand to avoid vat etc.

Auburngal · 28/02/2026 21:57

Alittlewordinyourear · 27/02/2026 20:53

Nothing to do with the cost of living . They are stealing booze, brazenly and aggressive because they are the dregs of society . Of course opening the prisons to let criminals out early via hardly a deterrent . Catch them charge them, put them in orange jumosuits and get them litter picking

Litter picking is not a good deterrent. For these reasons needs good monitoring of the prisoners, they won’t do a good job and sending the wrong message that areas will be cleared of litter by criminals, not by a organised litter picking group.

Being a litter womble, we do a great job of clearing rubbish as we want to live in a world with less litter. Criminals don’t seem to care

Auburngal · 28/02/2026 22:04

The supermarket I used to work at used to sell printer ink cartridges. They were stolen so many times that the store manager at the time asked HQ if we could stop selling them. They said yes.

When Jack Daniels wasn’t on offer - we only could give customers bottle(s) if they paid us first. We had a list of the barcodes of JD. When it’s on offer, it didn’t get stolen

OonaStubbs · 01/03/2026 00:49

Parents should be teaching their children the ten commandments which includes Thou Shalt Not Steal. Even for the non-religious they are a good set of rules to teach children.

Auburngal · 01/03/2026 06:48

OonaStubbs · 01/03/2026 00:49

Parents should be teaching their children the ten commandments which includes Thou Shalt Not Steal. Even for the non-religious they are a good set of rules to teach children.

When we were allowed to have sweets and chocolate in front of the kiosk - that stopped for HFSS (High in Fat, Sugar, Salt) about 2022. A few years before this, a kid about 3 years old grabbed a bar from the kiosk - his DM was a few steps away. Opened the bar and ran to her. DM praised him!

This is the behaviour we should not be expecting to be taught by parents

MarmaladeSandwich7 · 01/03/2026 07:11

I work in a well known store & it’s got a lot worse since the COL got so ridiculous, although I don’t actually witness much of it personally even though I’m on the checkouts. You do have to watch customers that put items in their bag that haven’t been scanned. Most do it innocently ( or at least I like to think so!) but you can usually tell the ones that are pretending to be dim. One of our Managers tackled a woman who had come in with her husband. It turned out they were well known in the area for shoplifting. I’d served them many times & always had a laugh with them so it was particularly shocking. The Manager wrestled some bags off the woman as she was leaving. She’s the loveliest person you could meet but blimey she can be fierce! I know it was a daft thing to do but I couldn’t help but admire her!
We don’t have a security guard & our alarms don’t work so these issues definitely need to be addressed.

Sparklespecs · 01/03/2026 07:14

My local food shop security tags the Red Bull but not the Monster. Does Red Bull have a street value but not Monster?

I worked in a food shop in the town centre of a generally quite safe town in the 1990s and people routinely, every Saturday, would come in the back door with large shopping bags, clear the whole shelf of beef joints, and then depart without challenge.

Randomlygeneratedname · 01/03/2026 07:23

CurlewKate · 25/02/2026 14:39

Not saying there isn’t shoplifting-there is. Not saying it’s not awful. It is. I am saying that it’s very unlikely that you have seen repeated incidents where staff in chain shops like Co-op have confronted shop lifters. They are explicitly told not to. Which is also awful-but a necessary safety measure.

I work in the coop in the evenings, I have never once been told not to challenge shop lifters. Infact, as a supervisor, it has been heavily implied that I should confront them. I don't care because I have made it clear I am not risking my life for a just above minimum wage side gig. Coops are franchised, the owners often care very little about the individual staff members, they care about profits. They aren't big corporations, they are often family businesses who would take the loss from people's pay cheque given half the chance.

schtompy · 01/03/2026 10:33

Needs to be like the Philippines..security guards at entrance exits..wands to check bags, the uk has become to damn soft

hcee19 · 01/03/2026 10:54

The answer is to get a bloody job...

Auburngal · 01/03/2026 13:05

hcee19 · 01/03/2026 10:54

The answer is to get a bloody job...

Have you looked at the job market? It’s crap. I was unemployed for 13 months before I started my job.

Left as couldn’t tolerate the bullying from the store manager much longer. I was crying all the time.

Retail has a lot to answer for regarding shoplifting. Staff are leaving but not replaced. So there are areas of supermarkets and shops that have nobody down them - staff wise. It’s more difficult for SLs to nick stuff with staff nearby

latetothefisting · 01/03/2026 19:17

GasPanic · 25/02/2026 14:09

Just live outside the cities. Generally cities are havens for criminals because there are more opportunities there. Shops to thieve, stuff to break into, dealers to buy drugs from, betting shops, pubs to sell stuff in etc etc.

If you live in nowheresville in the countryside then there is much less chance of this (not zero chance but much reduced).

And everyone knows everyone anyway, so if the kids are nicking stuff the shop owners generally know which parents to talk to.

I'm going to hazard a guess that if everyone took your advice and just 'lived outside the cities' meaning your kids couldn't afford a house, their class sizes went up to 38 in a class, your drive from home to work/shop went from 10 minutes to 45 every day because of the traffic, air population increased and green fields got built on....you'd be the first to complain!

Not to mention it's not practical for every to 'live outside the cities' - 83% of britain live in 'urban populations' - if everyone moved to the countryside those little villages would become the new cities! There's not enough space, housing, or services for everyone to live in little hamlets of no more than 200 people, even if they wanted to!

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