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Sanctuary · 16/06/2008 16:41

As always its along story my friend and I have been good friends for 10 years plus and seen each other through some rough times ¨
Anyway the last couple of years Ive felt its been me doing the running ,phoning to keep it going Last year i was her bridesmaid which we flew over for as we live abroad I felt like it was a huge honour.to be asked. At the wedding the groom came over and said listen to my speech when i do it.WTF Anyway to try cut it short he mentioned everybody but me the people who had travelled from x,y,z and those who had travelled down the road.He thanked the best man the groomsmen etc etc.But not me O.K its not a big deal but when he sat down he winked at me.Didnt realize he did^nt like me

Anyway my friend never phones me as she works and is now 5 mths pregnant.I aM SAHM she says I have more time
When I do phone her at work (self employed) her dh tells her to get of the phone as its me.She laughs and says she needs to go
The longest weve gone not speaking is about 3 weeks and then I feel guilty and phone to which she says I knew you phone me first
Got so pissed off I thought f**k it
Well its been 6 weeks since we last spoke and I don`t know what to do
She has spoken to a mutual friend(who has the same issues with her you have to always phone her)Asking if I was alright

Now I know her DH pissed me off but thats not got anything to do with her and I.

Do I phone her or leave it which means when I see her when I come back to the U:K it will be awkward

If I told her she would say I was being dramatic and shes been busy well so have I BUT I do try and make time for phoning friends

Am I being Dramatic????

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Ecmo · 16/06/2008 16:47

should a good friend really be that much hard work? I think you need to find a better friend IMO

Sanctuary · 16/06/2008 16:50

Yeah when I read it back to myself I thought "what am I doing ".
Its just that she makes me feel as I am at home I have the time to phone her while she is busy building her empire plus is pregnant
Woundered if I was being selfish A BIT

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forevercleaning · 16/06/2008 16:51

wouldn't bother with her IMO

mistypeaks · 16/06/2008 16:51

Well hw sounds like an ar$e. If I were her I'd have to seriously consider who was more important him or a long time good friend.
That said I have a friend overseas (its not you is it?! Nah my DH wouldn't do that though) and she nearly always phones me. I love her dearly, I am just awful at phoning people. I've always been the same and she makes a joke of it. You've made me wonder though if she is hurt. Must phone her tonight . . .

LMAsMummy · 16/06/2008 16:55

Sometimes friendships do have an end. Maybe this is it? But only you can judge how much she means to you, and if the crap is worth it. If it was me, I have enough crap in my life without having a person like this, if it was making me upset. (Does that make sense, sorry that is not meant to sound really harsh.) I just wonder if 'friends' are worth getting upset over. Ie do you have other people in your life who might show you they value you more, and make you feel better about yourself?
I don't think you are being dramatic, I would be very pissed off!!

Flashman · 16/06/2008 16:55

Depends - Do you still want to be friends - if so call her - does it matter who calls who- it seems that you do like this person so what is the point of hurting yourself. And with her DH just ignore the twat. I don't like my mates other half but he are both nice to each other for him.

alittleone2 · 16/06/2008 16:56

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ladystardust · 16/06/2008 16:56

Oh horrid!
I let go a friend 'cause her husband was an a**e. You have to.
That's her life now.
Painful I know. Sorry you're going through it.

Kimi · 16/06/2008 17:00

Let her gon I am sure she will come crawling back once her controlling husband has got rid of all her friends then left her with the baby to find a new play thing....met his type before

sophiewd · 16/06/2008 17:02

Let her go, if she can't see what her H is doing then it is sad.

keevamum · 16/06/2008 17:03

I'd just like to sympathise with you. I have an equally elusive friend who doesn't seem to make any effort any more to stay in contact and I am conming to the same conclusions...it's sad but I guess we need to move on.

cestlavie · 16/06/2008 17:15

Yes, to echo a couple of others, sometimes friendships have to end. I've found once you have a kid, that it's hard enough work trying to see all the people who you want to see and who want to see you without chasing people who are just bad at staying in touch/ making arrangements even if those people are (or were) very good friends. It's a shame to lose touch, but frankly, fuck it, friendship goes two ways.

Just as an aside, whilst her wanker DH probably isn't making it easy for her to stay in touch, it certainly doesn't sound like she's that bothered anyway and treats other people like she treats you.

AbbeyA · 16/06/2008 17:26

I would let it go but keep in touch at Christmas and then there is always the possibility of renewing the friendship at a later date.

Sanctuary · 16/06/2008 17:36

Would have to keep some kind of contact their DD is my goddaughter so xmas and birthday presents
Funny I remember her DDs birthday but she does`nt remember mine

Think its about time that I woke up and smelt the roses

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