To ask DH not to strain my teabag with his bare hands?

[TeaSqueezingpos]

DH has been making me cups of tea for about 10 years. Funnily enough I’ve never stopped to watch him make it because.. well then I might aswell make it myself. This man make me about 2 cups of tea a day.

Hes making my evening tea today, and I catch him squeezing the teabag out, into my tea.. with his bare hands. Confused I ask “did you just use your bare hands to squeeze my teabag out?”

“well yeah?”

WHAT. What kind of psychopath have I been living with? He said that’s how he’s always done it. I’ve asked him to never do that again because.. ew! It’s somehow worse than someone touching my food with their bare hands 🤣

please tell me I’m not being unreasonable😩

Yep, that's how I do it too. Burn your fingers grabbing the edge of the tea bag, then press with fingers to release tea.
Otherwise we would be out of spoons in no time, and it's also more efficient.

I also cook with my bare hands, put the groceries away, etc etc. Not sure what the difference is as long as hands are washed beforehand.

Very disappointed. I thought "strain my teabags" sounded a very interesting euphemism.

Pop.

That’s how I do it 🤷‍♀️ He’s your husband ffs, I’m sure you’ve held his hand before, so what difference does it make! Unless he has visible shit lumps on his hands, I’m sure you’ll live.

How does he mash potatoes?

My partner sometimes forgets to take the teabag out and when I drink my tea a wet teabag smacks me in the mouth. Be grateful for small mercies.

That is gross, I agree, I would not accept that - but my DH makes undrinkable tea so it’s never going to happen.

Get one of those squeezing thingies.
I love mine, saved me dripping tea when using a spoon to carry a wetish bag to the bin.

you know the film ‘wreck it ralph’?

How on earth is he doing that? Surely he's using boiling water so why isn't he (and others) scalding themselves? 😱

As for others saying he's touching your sandwiches etc I'm assuming he washes his hands before prepping food but I'm guessing he doesn't wash them before making a cuppa? At least I hope he does wash his hands but who knows 😮

I can’t believe all the teabag squeezers!! Are you all animals?!! I might start using that as an insult (he’s a right teabag squeezer).

Eh, do you keep them all like a museum of teabags? I put them in the foodwaste bin having previously been sure to buy teabags that were suitable for foodwaste binning

I do this but I do use a spoon for other people.

I just leave the bag in and drink until it plops against my teeth...

Your husband is a weirdo for doing that. I would ask him to stop that too.

TBH Id be wondering when he last washed his hands..

Disgusting

In fact I couldn’t drink tea made by anybody I knew did that.

Same here really can't see an issue

Oh no, that would make me feel ill! 🤢

I always do this, whilst feeling slightly macho.
Not make your tea, obvs. Although with this anonymity and stuff, I could be your husband. Am I...???

I’m sorry I think you hand squeezers are right mingers and I’m glad you’re not making me tea ever.

OP some of us have your back here. Spoons are for teabags - that’s it AFAIC.

I let the tea bag sit for a minute then pluck it out with hands but don’t wring it out but I like weak tea and not having to wash teaspoons constantly

OP let’s hope he washes his hands after the toilet, or is it extra strong tea…?

This is very odd behaviour. Does he have asbestos hands?!

I mean, he’s been doing it twenty years and you’ve only just realised it now, so I’ve voted you are being unreasonable.

However, I absolutely LOATHE coriander and everyone who knows me well knows this.
I got home from work to find my husband had chopped coriander so finely it was almost invisible to the naked eye and stirred it all through my dinner. He said he didn’t know I didn’t like coriander (we’ve been together for over eight years). I seriously considered divorce and I still can’t get over it, so maybe you’re not being completely unreasonable…..

But you would eat ham sandwich wouldn’t you?

how do you think ham gets to sandwich?