To go on holiday during MIL's birthday weekend

[Frustratedandpissedoff]

DP and I are planning on booking a holiday later this year, the only time this year that I have 2 weeks off together. Due to limited flights and our choice of destination, it looks like we may be heading off the day after (Sunday) his mum's 60th (Saturday). She says she doesn't want a big fuss but I know there will be some sort of celebration which may be held on the Sunday due to people's work schedules. No concrete plans have been made yet.
DP says that it's fine but I feel a bit bad about potentially going on holiday during her 60th celebrations, and the fact that she is a bit old-fashioned about an unmarried couple holidaying together doesn't help either...(we don't live together)
If it wasn't a big birthday I wouldn't give it a second thought. Am I being ridiculous?

I couldn't care less about my MIL, but probably wouldn't go away when it's one of the "big" birthdays. There are 51 other weeks to choose from!

Don’t be ridiculous 😂.
When I was 60, it fell on a Wednesday. No one wants a party on a Wednesday! I asked everyone who mattered to me what date would they be free for a party, gave them 3 possible dates and I went with the majority. At 60, it really isn’t important to most of us to celebrate on the actual date.

If you have fixed holidays along with your partner, that reduces the choice as to when you can go away.

Is your DP not giving this any thought because he’s careless? Or is it because he knows his mum best and knows she won’t really mind? Because my mum really really wouldn’t care.

If you literally think a celebration is likely to be planned that Sunday then it’s a bit shitty to book a holiday for that day on a big birthday imo.

You’re not missing her birthday , her birthday is Saturday and you both fly on sunday ! No plans are made yet so if there’s a party going on and she really wants her son there , then Saturday party it is .

Your not quite MIL is likely to say she doesn’t mind but actually expect you not to book to go that weekend and be resentful if you do. Either book to go on the Monday or your DP could actually take responsibility for organising a celebration and then he’d know what was going on. If her birthday is in June and it’s now nearly March it’s not that early to organise it if she expects lots of family to be there. Even if it’s just a meal it’s good to get dates in the diary and somewhere booked.

Do you even live with your DP if you text him about this?

Go on the Monday

simples

next customer please!