Feeling uncomfortable watching teen movies with DD.

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We are currently watching 13 going on 30 and there are some scenes which I’m finding uncomfortable to watch with her. I had an abusive childhood myself, and my mum never talked to me about anything. I have been very open with my DD so far, and answered any and all her questions. But there’s a scene with kissing and a man stripping down to his underwear and I don’t know where to look.

I feel ridiculous to tell anyone this in real life. What is wrong with me? Does anyone else find this stuff awkward? Sorry, I know I sound ridiculous right now. Please don’t flame me.

How old is your DD?

I would have thought most parents find watching sexy time on TV with their teenagers awkward, and vice versa.

Habe you had a chat with her yet about where the babies come from?? 🤣🤣

Would you be happier to watch a gory or violent movie rather than some teenage appropriate flirting, kissing and a few naked bodies?

Absolutely. Back in the day, if you wanted to watch TV, you had to do it in the living room and watch your parents' choice. I remember being hideously embarassed at i, Claudius with my dad (as no doubt he was too)

DD is 12.

So, inevitable then.

When Saltburn came out, it was year 8s who told me to watch it! That’s 12/13 year olds so if you find snogging and kissing embarrassing then absolutely do not watch the above. As much as we want our children to stay innocent, they are bombarded with images and sexual chat from a very young age. That’s one of the reasons schools want to totally ban phones in school

I have older teens 16 &18 for a while we'd fast forwarded sex scenes but now we just watch it. Sometimes we acknowledge that it's a bit uncomfortable watching this.

But also actually some scenes have given us talking points mostly around red flags and how to spot them in a relationship. But also that communication is important for a good sex life.

Being a bit matter of fact about it helps especially as they get older, it's meant mine have trusted me to have conversations about things they were unsure about in their own relationships.

We're watching Game of Thrones with our 17yo. The firsr few times we watched things with our teens that had anything a bit steamy in them, it was a bit cringe. I've got over it now, and GoT is pretty full-on!

Fast forward bits if it’s too much, no need to endure cringe scenes for the sake of it. It’ll get even worse when you start watching 15s and 18s with her. Get in the habit of fast forwarding

This isn’t the approach to take. This is just avoiding serious subjects and leading the OP’s daughter to not have knowledge on certain subjects or feel she can ask questions.

As long as she’s watching age certificate appropriate stuff OP just try and dig deep and show her these things aren’t a subject to be embarrassed or ashamed about.

Have you thought about contacting certain charities that may be able to help you with the circumstances of your past and how you can navigate these subjects with your daughter?

Yes it's awkward, sometimes we say "ha ha, not what you want to be watching with your mum"etc. Now they're older we comment more on what's going on or make sarcastic comments "I bet she'll need a big cup of tea after that" or similar. Good luck