To have said something to ex?

[Oliverloverr]

So ex see’s our 2 DC every other weekend. The kids have started to get upset due to the length of time between visits to their dads so I raised the issue with him and he said he would get back to me on it. My daughter (9) came home from
her dads this weekend really upset and just said she didn’t want to say bye to her dad, why couldn’t he just keep them for an extra few hours? He bought her a gift explaining how much he loved her and told her to hug it when she kissed him (in my
opinion it is all bollocks as actions speak louder than words). If he really missed them he would attempt to see them more, he is just a Disney dad.

Yes, but not the other way around. If something (god forbid) happened to your children, surely he'd want to know? He sounds a little controlling tbh.

Well I left him because everything was left to me anyway, and on weekends he would go outwith his friend obviously forming his new relationship ship with the woman he is with now. He said to me once that if I never had any expectations I would never be pissed off! He is a joke

Obviously every situation is different, but my ex was made to communicate with me via a parenting app. So I could block him everywhere else (he can call through the app) due to his abuse of me. He was also made to disclose his address and his girlfriends, because he was leaving the kids with her and not actually having them himself.

He got ripped apart by the judge for not letting me have his address, I wonder if you’d legally be able try your luck with forcing the address and communication issue?

As for having them more unfortunately you can’t force him to parent, even though what he’s currently doing is piss poor and an embarrassment. I would make one last offer of an extra overnight somewhere, he could compress his hours or finish earlier one night a week like the rest of us mums often have to do. And 50% of all the school holidays. If he doesn’t respond then that’s your answer I’m afraid.

Make sure he pays full maintenance.

No I can’t force him, what I am struggling with is the token gifts etc as I think it is making my DD more emotional. Telling them that he misses them etc but not actual doing anything practical about it, it’s just words, they mean nothing.

Id take him to court ,he would not be taking my children if i didnt know where they actually where and i couldnt phone them

Where do you get that from. It was an agreement that makes sense

I think there's more to this. You say you were angry and that he had good reason to block you, so what else has gone on that means he doesn't want you to know where he lives?

I'm also not sure what you want- you agree he can't see them in the evening because of his long hours, so would you like him to have every weekend?