So my SIL is a toxic person, we (my husband and I) don’t get along with her and never have despite us trying in the early days, but she never made it easy , she’s never liked us or my MIL/FIL and only used them for child care but on their terms (had to drive 2 hrs round trip to fetch grandkids for overnight babysitting even tho parents asked them to have them)
she would ignore them if they visited the grandkids and hardly ever spoke to them, BIL would pop round with the kids now and them to see them without her. The only time she would see them was if they went out for meals and my in laws would have to pay every single time!
They (sil/bil) spend holidays and every Xmas with her family and never ever my in laws, we have always had them to us for alternating Xmas with my parents and we have had them for holidays with them Easter etc or even abroad.
they live 10 miles from in laws now and have done for last 10 ish years. We live 4 hours away which is closest we’ve ever lived due to husbands job. All of a sudden she’s started sucking up to MIL and makes comments on fb about driving her to appointments etc..like she’s the best DIL ever…FIL has had health issues recently and I’m wondering if she’s now changing her ways as she can see they not getting any younger..both mid 70s and has her eyes on the inheritance! (Modest detached 3 bed house)
am I being horrible thinking like this? She really pisses me off, my in laws have never challenged her or my BIL as they worried she would cut them off from grandkids so they just moaned to us about them all the time instead!