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To want to give new neighbours a card?

37 replies

CocoBean22 · 23/02/2026 15:50

New neighbours next door to us have moved in this week and I thought it might be a nice gesture to post a card through their door in a few days/week to say welcome and introduce ourselves.
Im quite a friendly person so I would be touched if someone did this for me, however I understand day and not everyone is like that and it may be weird?
What do you think?
Would you think it was nice to receive a card when moving in or weird?

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Eifla2o18 · 23/02/2026 15:51

I usually do.

Pippa12 · 23/02/2026 15:51

We received a couple of cards when we moved in- I thought it was nice. I will do the same if we ever get new neighbours next door.

BeaLola · 23/02/2026 15:53

Yes I would think it nice & I always send a card to any new neighbours in road - last ones moved in beginning of NoV and I popped a card through the post - they commented on how welcoming it made them feel in a new area

Sea25 · 23/02/2026 15:57

We’ve always done this when we’ve moved somewhere or others have moved in next to us. Just a little card to say hello/our names (and if they’re moving in- a local takeaway/restaurant recommendation!).

If they don’t like it they can always ignore it, but I think the thought is nice and means a neutral start to neighbourly relations.

landlordhell · 23/02/2026 16:00

I usually try to speak to them face to face and introduce myself. But if you don’t naturally run into them then the card is good.

florafoxtrot · 23/02/2026 16:03

We have recently moved and was really touched to receive cards from the neighbours. Moving is exciting but its an anxious time too so made us feel welcomed.

freckledsloth · 23/02/2026 16:05

We recently moved and the neighbours across the road came over with a card and small gift and introduced themselves. It was a lovely gesture.

Normandy144 · 23/02/2026 16:07

I think it's a really nice thing to do, but I'm surprised no one has commented already that it's a terrible idea and creepy as usually on MN this kind of behaviour is said to be creepy/intrusive etc. Ultimately it's a nice gesture and I think it's nice to welcome people to the neighbourhood. Your new neighbours can do with it what they like.

RollOnSunshine · 23/02/2026 16:09

it's a terrible idea and creepy/intrusive etc

MajorProcrastination · 23/02/2026 16:22

That's nice. When our nextdoor neighbours moved in I knocked to introduce myself and gave some biscuits or something, it really helped to kick things off nicely.

AppropriateAdult · 23/02/2026 16:25

Why would it be weird?! This is totally standard friendliness to new neighbours and well within social norms.

GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut · 23/02/2026 16:26

I think if you send them a new home card from x and y at no. 23 then that's nice.

If you send an essay offering to water the cat and feed the plants if they go away, promising help with gardening, telling them when and where to put the bins out and to avoid Beryl at no42 because she's got an ASBO for coming home drunk from the bingo then that would be a bit much.

Thanksforyourlackofthought · 23/02/2026 16:27

Lovely idea. I'd be very pleased if someone did that. It's a nice ice breaker.
We are moving later this year into a small village and now if I don't receive cards I shall be very disappointed! 😂

BillieWiper · 23/02/2026 16:31

In my area that would be seen as kind of intrusive. I think. I'd probably more just organically bump into them and say hi, then start a chat and hopefully become friendly.

But the worst the card recipient can do is bin it. It just might seem awkward for you to see them if they do ignore the card. As you then might be unsure if they were hostile or just not fussed.

CinnamonBuns67 · 23/02/2026 16:33

I think that would be lovely, I'd have loved it if my neighbours did that.

365RubyRed · 23/02/2026 16:48

It's a friendly and welcoming thing to do, and perfectly normal where I live. Only on Mumsnet are neighbours the enemy.

Mydogisagentleman · 23/02/2026 16:52

We've had 3 new neighbours in 10 years. I've put a card through and given the latest a bottle of Prosecco.
Unfortunately they are Muslim. The man was very gracious and gave it back.

Miranda65 · 23/02/2026 16:54

I would find it way too pushy, not to mention a bit creepy.
But where I live, hanging out with neighbours isn't really A Thing.

Original poster
CocoBean22 · 23/02/2026 17:07

GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut · 23/02/2026 16:26

I think if you send them a new home card from x and y at no. 23 then that's nice.

If you send an essay offering to water the cat and feed the plants if they go away, promising help with gardening, telling them when and where to put the bins out and to avoid Beryl at no42 because she's got an ASBO for coming home drunk from the bingo then that would be a bit much.

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RudePie · 23/02/2026 17:38

Definitely don't do this. They will automatically assume that you are "sex people" and will be straight round to drop their car keys in your fruit bowl.

Duckiewasthefirstniceguy · 23/02/2026 17:41

Depends on where you live. When we lived in a flat in central London, it would have been considered a bit odd. Now we live on a really friendly suburban street and it’s very much the norm. We also do Christmas cards. It’s nice. 🙂

Ilovepastafortea · 23/02/2026 17:44

A card is a lovely idea.

When we moved into our home about 4 years ago not only did we get several cards from neighbours, we had neighbours knocking on the door offering tea/coffee & help unpacking boxes. Our next door neighbour brought around a homemade casserole with homemade bread as she thought we would appreciate a proper meal after moving & wouldn't have time or energy to prepare one.

JustGiveMeReason · 23/02/2026 17:47

Not sure how to vote as

YWNBU to put a card through - that really is a very normal thing to do

YABU to be overthinking it so much that you need to consult the internet as to if it is okay to do this. See point above about it being a really normal thing to do.

Samewrinklesnewname · 23/02/2026 17:50

RollOnSunshine · 23/02/2026 16:09

it's a terrible idea and creepy/intrusive etc

I’m intrigued as to why you see it like that?

Rewis · 23/02/2026 17:52

Go for it. Not something I've ever done or has ever done to me. But I feel like the type of people who would take it the wrong way would be the type of people who get offended by everything. Assuming it is a generic welcome to neighbourhood and not some weird pressure to invite you for bbq.