To not unroll DHs filthy socks before washing?

[pontipinemum]

This is meant to be light hearted!

DH said the other day that one of his socks was still wet after being in the tumble dryer. Not giving out just a comment.

He takes his socks off balled up and throws them into the washing basket. I've told him loads of times that how they are in the basket is how they go into the machine! A lot of the time they seem un 'un-ball'

He can and does use the washing machine but I do pretty much everyone's to keep on top of it. There are lots of jobs he does too.

DH is a cattle farmer and does a lot of welding/ mechanical work.

AIBU to leave them balled up?

His job is irrelevant; if he wants his socks washing and drying then they are in the basket, unrolled. If thats where you set the bar; the bar is set. You're not responsible for rummaging through dirty washing to unball his socks.

My partner does his own washing nowadays. But back when I was PT and did all the household washing, I wouldn’t wash anything that wasn’t washing machine ready - that meant pockets empty, items separated, turned the correct way and un-balled. It remained in his wash basket.

You’re within your rights not to unroll

haha! leave them balled up to wash and dry! My friend was fed up of unrolling work shirt sleeves so she washed dried and ironed them like it one day - he never put them in the laundry basket rolled up again!

is he this petty with you

Yes, I have the same "rule" - I have warned others that I don't unravel dirty socks, and if they want them washed properly they need to do it themselves before putting them in the basket. As well as not wanting to touch other people's dirty socks, it can be quite a time consuming task if you have to sort through lots of socks at once, whereas it's a couple of seconds to do each one individually before it goes in the basket.

DS seems to be capable of doing this. DD and DH do not.

I don’t unroll anything or do anything extra. The people I wash clothes for know this and so they put things in the basket when they’re ready for washing. If socks are balled up when they go from the basket into the machine it’s down to the washing gods as to how they come out.

How do people even make balls out of socks taking them off?!

You are not unreasonable. My DH used to unbutton just the minimum buttons in order to pull his formal shirts over his head and into the linen basket. After washing I had to unbutton the shirts to line dry and iron.

He managed to unbutton his own shirts after I washed them and hung them unironed on a hanger in his wardrobe ( buttoned right up to the collar).

Also light-hearted:

My husband PAIRS HIS SOCKS (tucks them together!) before putting them in the laundry basket.

If you are going to wash them I’d unroll them as you no they are dirty and won’t get cleaned properly. If you don’t want to (which is fair enough) then don’t wash them and let him do it. No need to be petty

Ughhhh I have this same issue with my husband (a contractor, and we farm too so also fairly gross 😂). I don’t do it on purpose but equally I do not go sorting through ensuring every sock is un-rolled. He sometimes leaves his shirt inside his jumper too, that’s fucking annoying as well 😂 I cut him some slack when it’s busy, because fair enough, he’s coming home in the dark and creeping around trying not to wake anyone but it is one of those things that just makes me so irrationally angry 😂

I absolutely wouldn’t be unballing them. If he can’t be bothered to do it, why should you? It’s gross to have unnecessary contact with another person’s socks.

I don’t see this as petty at all; he is being lazy in the first instance.

I pair all socks and encourage my family to do the same otherwise I have to rummage round the baskets looking for pairs of socks!

But she said he can and does do laundry, she just chooses to do it more to speed it up, she could easily just not wash them and have even less contact with his socks. Choosing to do them but making a point he’s been lazy, is a tad petty

I chuck DP's socks into the washing machine balled up. Ditto shirts with rolled-up sleeves. They come out how they come out. He's free to unball them himself if he's not happy with the results.

I check all pockets though, because anything untoward going in the washing machine will just make my life harder (and also I'm as likely to have left tissues or a pen or a tenner in my pockets as DP).

I had this with DH when we first got married. Balled socks and rolled up shirt sleeves. I asked him a few times to not do this and he managed it for a few days, then slipped back. So I washed them as they went into the basket. He doesn't do it any more.

Edited to add that tissues left in pockets pisses me off more than words can say.

YANBU - DD takes off her leggings with her socks in and chucks them in the wash. I wash and dry them like that. I asked her repeatedly to not do it and then gave up. They don't even wash properly like it though.

I also fold the leggings inside out and put them in the laundry basket. She can turn them the right way round herself if she can't be bothered before they go in the wash.

I am not her servant.

Maybe once she is at Uni and doing her own washing all the time, she will change her ways.

We don't pair socks, we mostly buy black ones, but we just grab 2 socks from the drawer and wear them.

If you put your finger under the cuff of the sock and pull down. It sort of rolls up as it comes off.

I do all laundry preparation including unrolling, checking pockets etc. However it’s just how we do this here - laundry is my domain but e.g I don’t do any gardening jobs. So it depends how you feel about it - if you don’t like it I won’t unball.

I'm having a good laugh at a lot of these.

@skyeisthelimit I have 2 sons they are 3 and 1. I cannot wait for the day I no longer need to turn their clothes the right way around!

yabu
if i'm putting washing in, I'll make sure it's done properly

Everything goes into the washing machine straight from the basket - buggered if I'm going to sort anything more than maybe splitting PE Kit from the rest so I don't waste hygiene wash (and TBH, that's in bags, so already largely split apart).

In fact, if things are left in pockets, I'm going to come and have a go at you for blocking up the washing machine filter.

I have mentioned many times that if socks are balled up, they don't wash or dry properly. Sometimes eldest still balls them. That's his lookout.

On the other hand, I don't care that he leaves his shirts buttoned up - doesn't take me any more or less time to iron a buttoned up shirt. (I iron because he's dyspraxic and will burn hiimself/take forever and that's not a battle he needs to take on)

DD is 17, so you could have a long wait .

I have a vegetable net that I put socks in, and then the whole net goes in the wash with the laundry - socks not balled/paired and also not eaten by the washing machine.

I would imagine that they take the socks off and roll them together in a ball.