AIBU to not have any "days out" planned for our weekend away ?

[Jobdemon111]

DH ,DS8 and I have a break upcoming in April. Friday - Monday. It is a place we have been to many times so have done many of the attractions in the area. Its a lodge on a holiday site so has pool, soft play, arcades and evening entertainment. We also booked a lodge with a hot tub.

We have been so so busy lately (evenings and weekends) with various things so I am thinking when we go away we only make use of the site (swimming and play areas) and maybe a walk along the beach or a local park, go out for breakfast and dinner without no big urgency on times. Usually I am a planner, breakfast by a certain time so then we can get to an attraction by a certain time and be back by a certain time.

AIBU to just not plan anything, just go with the flow and have a real dialled down time away ? I always feel the pressure to "get the moneys worth" of places because you've paid to visit that area so I want to do as much as possible, but would like a very relaxed weekend to recharge our batteries - but am unsure whether we would get bored for 2 full days!

Looking for validation of other people that have done the same really - booked time away from real life just to recharge :)

I always like the idea of it, but in reality we all really struggle with nothing to do. Maybe plan something for the Saturday and chill on the Sunday as a compromise?

So apart from a plan to go for a walk and a swim and out for breakfast and dinner …. That’s plans already

Nothing wrong with just relaxing and recharging. Maybe have a couple of things as a backup if you get bored. Something you can book last minute rather than booking in advance and putting pressure on yourself. Best of both worlds.

Last time i went away my Dh was ill so really needed to rest.so we took puzzles and books. It was great, just what he needed.

I think chilling in nice surroundings is fine if your dc are entertained enough

We have a holiday in April (5 days) and I definitely haven’t planned a thing yet. Unless it’s something that books up well in advance, I can’t see why anyone would be stressing about it now. It’s February! The only thing I’ve vaguely thought about it booking the pub for Easter Lunch as we’ll be away over Easter and that will book up (haven’t actually booked it though!).

I think resting and recharging is great, but you can surely do that at home? I wouldn’t want to just sit around a caravan all weekend. But I think it’s perfectly normal to leave things til a few days before and make plans based on the weather and how everyone is feeling. If I’m paying to go away, I’d want to actually do something though. I can have lie ins and sit around at home.

I see nothing wrong with just having an entirely relaxed weekend.

However, you seem to be very "all or nothing", typified by the fact that you are worrying about this now and it's more than a month away. There is a middle ground between having everything very planned, and doing nothing much. Perfectly possible to lounge round the site in the morning and then decide to go somewhere in the afternoon if you fancy something different. Particularly if you are already familiar with the area so know what places are nearby.

We go to a similar holiday and plan at least 2 days in any break to do nothing. In reality though doing nothing involves softplay, swimming pool, playpark and evening kids entertainment so still a big day.

I hate planning anything on holiday. I go on holiday to get away from structure and planning. We get up when we wake up, eat when we are hungry and sleep when we are tired. In between we do whatever the mood takes us at the time 🥰

Not unreasonable to just "go with the flo" but don't take all the responsibility for planning on your shoulders: Ask husband and son if there are things they'd like to do, even if you have done them before. Remind son of what you've done on previous holidays and see what he enjoyed most. Sometimes pottering around holidays are the best.

I think its fine and is exactly what we’re doing on our weekend away at the start of March. The only thing I’d say is its worth considering if you’ll all be happy just chilling every day, and how easy it would be to find an activity/something to do last minute if it turns out you actually do want to do something. We’re not making any plans or bookings for our March trip but we’ve been to the area many times enough to know there are plenty of options of things we could book or go to last minute.

@mindutopia the problem is if we were at home we would not be relaxing. we would be filling the time with jobs at home, errands, seeing family; whereas when we go away it is a good time to disconnect from reality.

thanks everyone for your posts ! have defo taken it on and also like the idea of taking a few puzzles. i think i'll take some of my adult colouring books too (again which many I want to do but have no time for at the moment day to day!)

We have had 2 holidays like this over the last year due to my partner being injured preventing us from doing a lot of things and we LOVED them. We read, swam, hot tubbed, relaxed, watched movies, played board games and had the odd small stroll. I am looking forward to a more active getaway next month but I think sometimes it is good to just stop.