To think being alone is the best option

[LellyLov]

I’m in my late thirties and been single around 5 years I have 2 DC all my friends are getting married or are married in there love bubble and I just think that I have to be happy being alone for the rest of my life and accept it as I hate the thought of online dating I don’t go out anywhere other than work or food shopping I do all the things in the house myself ie decorating mowing the lawn etc I don’t have any friends to hang out with as stated before there busy with there own life’s. It was just Valentine’s Day and it was the first time I actually felt truly lonely

Date yourself. Do you enjoy spending time with your children? We go away together and they’re honestly so much fun. We go out for dinner or hang out at home. So much better without a grumpy husband in tow. Last year the kids and I went to Rome and spent valentines eating pizza in a lovely little square in the sun.
I also pack my weekends with seeing friends, most of them like the excuse to come over, escape the house and eat olives/ drink wine.
It’s about not letting it impact you. Most people in relationships are lonely too. The grass is not always greener.

There are huge positives to being single OP. Feeling lonely is a different issue.
Do you have siblings or parents who you can confide in and see?
How old are your children? Can siblings or parents help out so that you can carve some time to do something for yourself and meet new people? Having something to look forward to, even once a week, makes such a difference.

Thankyou For your lovely messages yes my sister is amazing but she’s had 2 babies pritty much back to back so it’s just a quick FaceTime here and there. I do absolutely everything with my kids as Ex is not in the picture shows up every 6 months and thinks he’s the best dad I days out , holidays dinners just the the 3 of us but it’s not that I’m complaining I’m just lacking an adult social life or comfort I know it sound silly but I think I’ve got to comfortable because the thought of trying to meet someone or trying to make new friends gives me so much anxiety

@LellyLov I'm in a similar situation to you. There is a social group called meet-up. They do book clubs, dances and concerts etc. might be worth a try?? Good luck x

I've always lived alone with no friends but never get lonely. I pretend I'm on holiday and treat myself as often as possible. Have never been a group person.

If you are a group person, get the local paper and have a look for stuff you're interest in. If you go to the same thing week after week you will click with someone. Tell yourself how lovely it is to have complete freedom to do whatever you want in the meantime.