Partner moving rooms round

[Sheeparemyfriends]

Partner moved lounge round to accommodate his stereo and speakers. Said he wanted to see what it looked like, but won't contemplate moving it back. I'm digging my heels in as he didn't listen when I said I didn't want him to as it would look rubbish. The problem is, he will only do what he feels like doing. We've no carpet on the stairs, or door on our room as he won't do it, get anyone in and won't tolerate me arranging it. Don't even get me started on the rest of the house. Now I'm the baddy for being upset and refusing to engage with his man cave. Am I being unreasonable? If so, how do I climb down from my viewpoint?

"Won't tolerate" you arranging it yourself? What do you mean? What do you think he would do? (Who owns the place?).

Is this how you want to live? Walking on eggshells, worrying about someone else's reactions to very normal things like getting a stair carpet? If you're not married and you don't have kids, cut and run now, before you're financially trapped.

LucyLoo,

Yes, it worked, but then I only had 3 serious relationships before I met DH, I made it clear to them I never wanted to live together, they accepted it. I only moved in with DH when we had a baby as I expect him to parent his own child.

Just get someone in to lay the carpet and put the door on.

Don't take any notice of this "won't tolerate" nonsense. If the carpet is down an the door is on he'll have to tolerate it won't he.

I couldn't live like that. You seem scared of him and he seems like a bully.

But before your relative died, why didn’t you sort the door or carpet then?

If he’s making your life difficult instead of adding to it then the relationship isn’t worth it OP. Don’t continue it just because you’re ground down.