To not share my colleague’s fundraiser on social media?

[ItsADogsLife1]

Keeping this vague so as not to be outing.

My colleague has a pet. Said pet now needs expensive surgery. She cannot afford it.

Rather than doing the responsible thing of having the pet PTS, she is begging for donations on social media. She has now started to message various group chats and tagging people who have not shared.

I do not agree with what she’s doing. I think owning a pet is a choice you make, and it’s your responsibility to pay costs. I think begging for donations on social media in the current economic climate is out of touch and distasteful. Especially for something like this. So I won’t share it.

AIBU?

I mean don't share it if you don't want but if my circumstances changed dramatically enough for me to beg to save my dog I would tbh

Share it: but set your privacy so that only she can see it.

Yes, it's sneaky but it saves hassle.

YANBU not to share it. Nothing wrong with her asking people to share it though.

Oh this is genius! Will she see it?

The world is full if absolutely cheeky fuckers isn't it? YANBU I wouldn't share either.

If she keeps tagging you for not sharing I would block her honestly.

I don't mind a fundraiser for some reasons, if they are totally unforseen, but not for something that insurance could have dealt with if she had bothered.

Her circumstances haven’t changed, she’s not suddenly lost her job or anything like that. She just can’t afford this massively expensive surgery

I wouldn’t share and I wouldn’t donate either

i might donate IF she had for example clearly fallen on hard times and could no longer afford insurance having previously done so, and the treatment had a realistic chance

this is just like the idiots who end up crowd funding to get back from turkey cos they forgot to get proper travel insurance

She’s had the animal for going on 10 years now and never paid for insurance, so that’s another reason why I don’t want to donate. If she never cared to get it, why would I donate?!

Well indeed. Anyone that chooses not to pay insurance should save money for days like this. Assume she did not.

Christ I think this is harsh!! Sharing it makes it appear that I endorse her actions and I don’t. I also feel incredibly cheeky essentially asking my friends and family to donate to her!

what?

I don't think it's responsible to have a pet PTS if it can be saved by surgery e.g. I don't usually agree with crowdfunders but as a dog lover I may help in this case.

If you can’t afford the surgery and you’re waiting months on end to potentially get together the money, all the while your animal is sitting in pain and suffering, I don’t think that’s responsible?!

Neither of you are being unreasonable. She can ask for whatever she wants, people are under any obligation to contribute.

Just don't share the post and don't donate. Stop making it into a big deal.

I feel like she’s making it a big deal by constantly calling us out/nagging us! It’s incessant

Just ignore it

Fuck me, that's a bit strong!

I would tell her I'm not going to share because I wouldn't be comfortable doing so, but I'd donate myself to make up for it... that's more for the poor animal though and because I know how painful it is to lose a beloved pet 💔

What do you mean by “calling us out”? If she’s posting on social media saying “ @Xxxplease repost this and donate now” in public i’d delete and block her on all platforms and if she brings it up in person say that you won’t connect with people who a social platform in that way.

If you don’t want to share it fair enough, don’t. I’m an animal lover, we had a dog and he was very much part of the family. She is just trying to do what she can to safer her beloved pet.

YABU you can just ignore it. That is the beauty of social media. Just scroll past.

Last year, someone on my FB put up a fundraiser to help with vet bills. She had maxed out her insurance and credit card. Thankfully, her dog pulled through. He had some mystery illness causing organ failure that they never got to the bottom of.

On our group chat, she’s going @ItsADogsLife1you haven’t shared it, please share

I like animals too. But i don’t like being harassed because she doesn’t have the means to pay

She's wrong to harass you, and she was wrong not to insure her pet. However, your statement that she should just have it PTS sounds a bit callous. She's probably hoping she can raise the money quickly so the animal doesn't suffer too much. I love my little dog dearly and would do anything to avoid having him PTS (I wouldn't harass colleagues tho).