Oz

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Any parents out there who’s children have gone to potentially live in Oz ???

My sister and her family moved there about 15 years ago. No sure what else you want to know.

My son has just left UK to set up in Oz I’m so sad he’s gone and so far away he has a 12month working visa just wondering how easy it is to stay there find somewhere to live cost of living etc ?

My son went initially on secondment for 18 months and decided to stay. He’s now got citizenship. His company originally sorted out accommodation until he got sorted. He had no problem finding somewhere. My son is in Sydney which is very expensive, but salaries reflect that. The lifestyle is so much better too. We’re fortunate that we can afford to regularly visit and he comes back regularly too. I know how you feel. I felt the same when he left, but communication is easier having FaceTime etc. Be proud that you’ve raised a son that has the confidence to spread his wings and experience life.

Did he have a job to go to and a place to stay,how long can he support himself financially.,where in australia has he gone.

When my sister, dh, and 2dc moved they had the equivalent of a council house for six months during which time they had to find their own accommodation which they did. The cost of living must have been less then, as their new place which they bought outright from proceeds of house sale here, was lovely, if a little outdated, and they had a pool, big garden etc. They've moved twice since and plan one more as their forever home. My sister works for her local council and has been able to move jobs easily when they changed locations.
They still absolutely love it, would never come back here to live, and have no regrets. I know my mum missed them terribly when they moved but did visit. We WhatsApp regularly but I've only seen her three or four times when she traveled back and have missed all family celebrations etc since. I had my mum's ashes in my wardrobe fot ages because she couldn't get over.
I would mention they never had any plans to return permanently so we weren't surprised when they didn't, we just hoped they'd visit now and again.

He is a carpenter and his friend just went there and said he’s got a job if he wants it I think it will be Perth or Brisbane not sure he has gone with his girlfriend after travelling they will have about £ 13000 when they get to Oz maybe share a place with their friends ?? I guess I’m hoping he’ll miss here and come back 😭

Perth is lovely. We’ve been a few times as husband has family there. When my son and his girlfriend went I kept focusing on the 18 months which tbf was his original plan. Then the company sponsored him paid for his visa renewal as they wanted to keep him. His girlfriend ( now his wife ) got a job at the same company. The company then paid for them both to get permanent residency. They’re now citizens as it makes it easier for them to come and go.

I just feel so lost he’s always lived at home so I’m trying to adjust but failing crying everyday that this is it he won’t be here anymore I don’t know what to do

Ny cousin went to Oz 12 years ago and left the house we shared she lodged wih me. My god my heart missed her. Its the worst of pain but you can't express it I didn't want to rain on her parade 💔. I did however go every two-years to see her and she is now back in the UK with four kids in tow. I see her every week and remind her how much I love her in case she has ant funny notions about going back!

Will you have enough to go and visit him once a year ? Or meet somewhere cheap half way for a holiday together in SE Asia? Can you focus on that? Assume his GF is from the UK - she might get homesick in time? Worse if he had an Aussie GF. But he has a great skill and should make lots of money and have a great lifestyle - hint that he can treat you to a flight once in a while. I think it’s exciting that they do this - it shows a great attitude IMHO. Be proud of him and share his accomplishments and excitement. Try to talk when it’s best for him rather than you - eg his evening rather than text

I totally get you, but you will be fine. Could you go and visit once he’s settled? What puts things into perspective for me is my son lost a close friend his age a few years ago. If I’m feeling overwhelmed especially when we leave him or he leaves to go back, I just think at least I can speak to him whenever unlike his friend’s mum and also he’s living life.

I know it will get easier as time passes but at the moment the more time that passes the more upset I get. they both have a 12 month working visa so I know they’ll defo be there for a year I just can’t get my head round it in my gut I feel they will come back to the uk once reality sets in but the uncertainty is killing me they live with me and have left all their stuff in the loft but sold some bits to fund their travelling x

The uncertainty is awful. I know how upset I was when we dropped my son and his girlfriend off at the airport for the first time. We took them both as his gf mum found it too upsetting to do.
My son left home at 18 to go to uni and never came home after graduation and I still found it hard. So can only imagine how difficult it is for you given he lived at home. My some was 26 when he went.

I just don’t know what to feel or what to do I know it’s his life but he’s never been away from home or lived anywhere else so this is so hard as it’s all I’ve ever know plus all his stuff is still here packed away which gives me some hope he may come back x

I’ve still got some of my son’s stuff in the loft. Never say never

My son went out for a year 18 years ago!
I said from the very beginning that he wouldn't come back as I think Australia has so many more opportunities for young people, so although obviously I am sad he is so far away it wasn't a total shock.
I always say I am so grateful for modern technology as we can what's app or video call at anytime.

Don't worry to much... he'll be back soon,those Aussies are a ghastly species and 13grand is small change in Oz