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Area gone to shit, feel forced to move 😪

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Runouttatown · 21/02/2026 11:38

I've lived in the same London suburb all my life. Until just a few short years ago it was a very nice area, and we thought we'd likely stay for ever, perhaps downsizing when the DC left home. We've spent a lot of time and money improving and extending our home over the years and it's perfect for us, just the way we want it, so would not wish to leave it for a few years yet.

However, the area has been going downhill at an alarming rate over the last 3 or 4 years to the point that we find we now absolutely hate it and want to get out - overcrowded, horrendous traffic, driving & road rage, unpleasant, rude people, lots of crime and antisocial behaviour. HMOs springing up all over, including one at the end of the street, most of which contain single, foreign men, not families. We're overrun with food delivery bike riders (many of whom live in the HMOS) who congregate in the high street, leering at women & young girls and spit disgusting red tobacco on the pavement. The area looks increasingly run down, fly tipping and a general lack of care. It has long been fairly multi cultural (no problem with that at all) but we're now finding that as white british people we are fast becoming a minority, and frequently encounter people who cannot speak any English. I'm sure some will accuse me of being racist but I absolutely am not, I'm just sad at what has happened to our once lovely area and, no, I'm not blaming immigration for all of it, although it's clearly a factor.

I know many areas are the same but there are plenty that are not - I only have to compare our Community Facebook page which is full of posts complaining of the above issues to that of the area we're thinking of going to which is completely different.

We've accepted we now need to move several years before we are ready but I feel so sad and angry about it. Several friends have already moved and others are considering it for the same reasons. The DC are happy for us to move as they hate it too - one at uni, the other working & considering buying their own place, not round here!

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Passingthrough123 · 21/02/2026 14:10

BeAvidHiker · 21/02/2026 14:04

The far left won’t like you making this obvious point.

You never see these bleeding heart types running towards areas where there are large immigrant populations wanting live there. In fact they can’t get out of there fast enough. But everyone else must put up with it.

Litter everywhere, chicken shops on every corner, unkempt houses, bad parking, cars stopping in the middle of the road to have full blown social gatherings while everyone else queues behind, high insurance fraud borne out by premium stats, overcrowding and households where women have never worked.

Not to mention the bigger social and public health disasters such as cousin marriages, FGM, forced marriages, higher rates of domestic abuse and sexual assault.

But saying all this makes you racist. Because apparently all this madness in the name of multiculturalism makes the country better.

How many of these neighbourhoods exist in the UK? And what percentage are they versus the areas that are socially acceptable because only white people live in them?

I'm sure you have the answer.

Cashmereclothing · 21/02/2026 14:11

MunicipalDarwinism · 21/02/2026 14:02

The taxpayer is now spending tens of billions of pounds every year ensuring they have food, accommodation etc

For all 11 million? None of them work? Link please.

But we don't need immigration for jobs. Unemployment is rising and we have plenty of NEETs to take on the the jobs

If we stop immigration and reduce UC we solve both problems.

TheCriticalThinker · 21/02/2026 14:14

Passingthrough123 · 21/02/2026 14:01

But our overall population has also grown from the 58 million it was 30 years ago. You cannot blame it all on immigration.

And let's be honest for a second. People on here are only objecting to black and brown migrants. No one cares if migrants come from Australia or other "white" countries.

The double standards are sickening.

I honestly don't think that's the case. I think most people object to migrants who have different values, not different skin colours.

It's why, for example, someone like Tommy Robinson has support from significant numbers of Sikhs and Hindus with family roots in India, but almost no support from Muslims with family roots in Pakistan

Passingthrough123 · 21/02/2026 14:22

TheCriticalThinker · 21/02/2026 14:16

White British are still the biggest % of benefits claimants though. 76.2% of all UC claimants, followed by Asian/Asian British at 10.4%.

The overall benefits spend is £334bn.

BeAvidHiker · 21/02/2026 14:28

Passingthrough123 · 21/02/2026 14:22

White British are still the biggest % of benefits claimants though. 76.2% of all UC claimants, followed by Asian/Asian British at 10.4%.

The overall benefits spend is £334bn.

Who is going to explain to this poster what representative stats are?

MunicipalDarwinism · 21/02/2026 14:30

TheCriticalThinker · 21/02/2026 14:16

That isn't what I asked.

Also, the Centre for Migration control is a dodgy as fuck one man band masquerading as a "think tank" a.k.a Robert Bates a Reform activist.

KaleidoscopeSmile · 21/02/2026 14:31

losttheplot25 · 21/02/2026 12:03

Yes same in my area too, up north. im a home owner and grew up here used to be 100% british residents. homes were well kept people had pride in their surroundings back then. Great community spirt neighbours would sit out and chat together during the summer.
Now its an absolute disgrace. have to weave through abandoned wheelie bins and fly tipped rubbish on every street. windows with a dirty sheets draped up instead of curtains, overgrown unkempt gardens. HMOs is such a shame to see the decline of our once lovely area. Each neighbour now speaks a different language so the community spirt has now gone.

Are you pretending that the disgusting neighbourhood you live in isn't still majority british because I bet "100%" that it is just as I 100% think that you're a racist

Cashmereclothing · 21/02/2026 14:31

So we have a large number of white people claiming benefits. The aim should be to tighten the benefits criteria and most definitely not bring in even more people to claim.

To be clear thus just exacerbates an already failing setup.

TheCriticalThinker · 21/02/2026 14:32

Passingthrough123 · 21/02/2026 14:22

White British are still the biggest % of benefits claimants though. 76.2% of all UC claimants, followed by Asian/Asian British at 10.4%.

The overall benefits spend is £334bn.

That's a huge and totally unsustainable benefits bill. The total taxation received per year is only a maximum of less than three times that.. meant to be spent on everything from hospitals to the police

TheCriticalThinker · 21/02/2026 14:35

MunicipalDarwinism · 21/02/2026 14:30

That isn't what I asked.

Also, the Centre for Migration control is a dodgy as fuck one man band masquerading as a "think tank" a.k.a Robert Bates a Reform activist.

Because someone you don't like is mentioned in the story therefore the story isn't true?

Cashmereclothing · 21/02/2026 14:36

KaleidoscopeSmile · 21/02/2026 14:31

Are you pretending that the disgusting neighbourhood you live in isn't still majority british because I bet "100%" that it is just as I 100% think that you're a racist

Have a look at the very high diversity in Moor Park, London Don't think the OP and others would complain about those people as neighbours.

The issue is people with no standards or morals and no work ethic destroying communities.

Cashmereclothing · 21/02/2026 14:39

Here is a summary:-

Moor Park, located on the border of Northwood in Hertfordshire/London, is an affluent, leafy residential area known for its low crime rate and high-value detached homes. The population is diverse, with a significant Asian (roughly 50%) and White (approx. 41%) population. It features a high proportion of residents in managerial/professional roles, with a large 45+ age demographic.

MunicipalDarwinism · 21/02/2026 14:41

TheCriticalThinker · 21/02/2026 14:35

Because someone you don't like is mentioned in the story therefore the story isn't true?

I didn't say that. I did say that link doesn't answer the question I asked you. My comment about RB was just for info.

Anyway. You're not going to give me an answer, so no point arguing the toss any further.

TheCriticalThinker · 21/02/2026 14:44

MunicipalDarwinism · 21/02/2026 14:41

I didn't say that. I did say that link doesn't answer the question I asked you. My comment about RB was just for info.

Anyway. You're not going to give me an answer, so no point arguing the toss any further.

Edited

I gave you the answer! You asked for a link on migration and benefits, and that was literally what the link was about?

If you didn't like that one because it mentioned someone you don't like, how about this one from this week:

mol.im/a/15550811

taxguru · 21/02/2026 14:46

@FlyMeToTheSpoon

HMOs completely change the vibe of the areas they are in, and never in a positive way.

The same happened a few decades ago to many seaside resorts, where the old boarding houses were converted into bedsits and then the authorities/councils etc "relocated" problem tenants into them, i.e. newly released offenders, etc. Entire streets turned into third world shit holes virtually overnight and most such seaside resorts have never recovered. Look at Blackpool - it's not "locals" who cause all the anti social behavior - it's people who've been transported there by the authorities/councils.

MunicipalDarwinism · 21/02/2026 14:47

TheCriticalThinker · 21/02/2026 14:44

I gave you the answer! You asked for a link on migration and benefits, and that was literally what the link was about?

If you didn't like that one because it mentioned someone you don't like, how about this one from this week:

mol.im/a/15550811

Oh, bless. You didn't understand the question. Never mind.

Cashmereclothing · 21/02/2026 14:49

Look at Blackpool - it's not "locals" who cause all the anti social behavior - it's people who've been transported there by the authorities/councils

This. It needs to stop!

Chattycatt · 21/02/2026 14:50

What suburb is this? (Sorry if it’s been stated)

BaffledNonsense · 21/02/2026 14:56

You've a valid experience OP and one which many of us share, but don't expect the guardian to write an opinion piece any time soon. The problem is widespread and growing. I used to think you could get away from it by moving to a quieter, nicer area but ime the shift is happening everywhere in England. Parts of Wales, such as Pembrokeshire, still have lovely well kept towns and villages, thriving high streets and a conspicuous absence of hmos. If you want to 'get out out ', I'd be considering moving further afield if you can.

crosstalk · 21/02/2026 14:57

Instead of moving, why don't you do something about it?

Speak to your local councillor about the rubbish and street behaviour. Start a litter picking group. Speak to businesses eg local takeaways about litter and what you'd like help dealing with. Campaign re: HMOs - local people I know had problems with too much student housing and consequent noise, litter etc and got a limit set per grid of roads. Talk to local schools. Involve the press, run your own FB page.

Fogwood · 21/02/2026 14:58

FlyMeToTheSpoon · 21/02/2026 11:51

My childhood street went the same way. There's now 6 HMOs on a small residential street, all filled with transient, foreign men who work in the gig economy and hang around outside looking dodgy at all hours of the day and night. There are often fights in the street, there's been a couple of stabbings, fly tipping all over the place because one council bin isn't enough for 7 separate people.

It used to be a nice multicultural street with kids playing outside. Now it looks like something from a Ross Kemp on Gangs documentary.

HMOs completely change the vibe of the areas they are in, and never in a positive way.

HMOs are a big problem where I am and have changed a few areas. They areas are within walking distance of the town centre so the town centre has completely changed. It's been such a rapid change. That's what people object to. It's unrecognisable from what the town centre was like 5 years ago.

I'm always amazed to visit family in other places who have seen none of these changes.

TheCriticalThinker · 21/02/2026 15:01

MunicipalDarwinism · 21/02/2026 14:47

Oh, bless. You didn't understand the question. Never mind.

Can't help thinking that a certain someone just didn't like the answer lol

Somerford · 21/02/2026 15:11

TheCriticalThinker · 21/02/2026 15:01

Can't help thinking that a certain someone just didn't like the answer lol

The mistake you're making is thinking that the poster you're replying to is engaging in good faith. They aren't. They're waiting for proof that all immigrants in the UK don't work and acting smug and condescending because you haven't provided it, even though you never made that claim and it was the PP who put those words in your mouth.

You made valid point and substantiated it with a link, leave it there or you'll be here all day.

mrsgilfeathers · 21/02/2026 15:20

MunicipalDarwinism · 21/02/2026 14:41

I didn't say that. I did say that link doesn't answer the question I asked you. My comment about RB was just for info.

Anyway. You're not going to give me an answer, so no point arguing the toss any further.

Edited

Then look it up yourself.

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