School refusal

[Onlyhuman28]

Daughter has anxiety has has school refusal for over 6 months.
Had help over the year well say help school called social work to where I was called a lair and my daughter
She is highly over sensitive has sensory issues bad anxiety and has experienced a lot of trauma in life

School wknt refer to cammhs and head master just won't help or social work

Hello, just sending a sympathetic hug. I'm so sorry you and your daughter are having such a rubbish time. How old is she?

Go to GP and seek a CAMHS referral

Go to gp, get counselling for her and ask for your own referral to camhs. Are you engaged with any other services? Go to your local council and search for single front door or single point of access and fill on this to get help, could be help for you or your DD such as adocolesnce worker to visit etc.
Contact the school admissions and let them know and you'd welcome any help too.

Please go to see your GP and ask for a CAMHS referral. In the mean time can you pay for talking therapies privately?
I did this for my daughter as the CAMHS waiting list was 18 months. It was so helpful for my daughter. Helped her learn techniques to manage her anxiety and worked wonders for her self-esteem and confidence. She ended up passing all her GCSEs and is now at college and been offered a conditional place for uni in September.

Do you know what she struggles with at school? I worked with school and they put strategies in place to help. She was met in reception in a morning, had a queue jumping pass for lunch and was able to leave class when she was feeling overwhelmed and had a safe space she could go until she felt able to return to lesson.

i don’t know if your local authority is the same, but I completed an early help assessment with school and social care allocated a family visitor who specialised in attendance struggles. She also coordinated team around the family meetings to ensure all the right support was in place.

https://notfineinschool.co.uk/ this organisation was also a great support for myself and gave great advice.

Fingers crossed your daughter gets the help she needs soon. How old is she?

Ask your GP for the referral, and consider asking for an EHC needs assessment. Anxiety which causes a child to have to miss school is a learning difficulty for which the school should be giving support.

By the way, it's more usually called Emotionally Based School Non-Attendance and you might like to use that term - it makes it clear that it's not your child's choice.

Get the school to get her assessed by an educational psychologist which should be quicker than cams.

Have you spoken to her about moving schools? A fresh start often helps greatly in these situations.

Anxiety, high sensitivity and school refusal can be related to trauma, did DS got any help with it before? Is there anything else stressful in her life just now?

Depending on her age, you can self refer to Early Help, discuss CAMHS with GP. Why are school refusing to refer?

Might also be called SPOE single point of entry.
But really, just go to GP!
Also, is there an Education Welfare Officee involved? Some are excellent and can sometimes help encourage school to make some adjustments to make it more doable for your daughter to attend. Also, what age is she and how is she functioning outside of school? Is she going out? Attending any clubs? Meeting friends? How is her sleep routine? If the lack of structure is meaning she is sleeping a lot in the daytime and less at night, for example, id really try and encourage her to stick to a regular bedtime, get up time and no screens an hour before bed etc. If she has sleep sorted already she will be in a better position once she does get support she needs from other services. Also, have a search online for any community organisations in your area that support young people with anxiety, social integration or empowerment or anything you think might help your daughter.

If DD is unable to attend school, is alternative provision in place?

Does DD have an EHCP?

In many areas, you can self refer to CAMHS. If you can’t, the GP will be able to.