I am in total shock!

[Wavingnotdowning]

My son rang me for a chat earlier and said he was sorry he couldn't stay on the phone for long as they had friends coming over for dinner and he hadn't hoovered the stairs yet!
He has grown up, and has a lovely partner. I must have done a reasonable job after all.
How did you know when yours had really changed into adults?

I knew my DS had reached adulthood when he went out wearing a coat.

Mines still a teen, but I found out from a friend that when my son and his friends all go climbing, he insists on double checking all their gear for them to make sure everything is fastened correctly as he's the most experienced and can't relax unless he's made sure they're all safe. 😍

That's so brilliant

Didn't you do well 😍

Loving these! 😍

An antidote to the men-hating threads that prevail here at times.

A few weeks before DD left home to go to uni (many years ago now). I had rang her from work to let her know I would be working overtime so not to worry if I was a couple of hours late. When I got home, the house was gleaming, the laundry had been done and there was a lovely curry on the go. When I thanked her, her reply was " well I thought it would be nice for you to have what I have whenever I get in after a long day at work and you have a day off." It was a far cry from the usual "what's for dinner?" the minute I got through the door.

After my then teenage son moved out, he complained to me about his flatmates playing their music too loudly .

@WavingnotdowningI wish you were my DP’s mum. (Having said that, you’re probably younger than DP!)

Last week my nearly 16 year old met up with friends none are couples all just friends.
He and a girl were there first and went to get a drink from a coffee shop. Girl went to pay for her drink and he turned round and said ‘no I will get yours it’s Valentine’s Day you shouldn’t be buying your own’.
Seems so silly but just made me think he has grown into a lovely young man.

Just to add he told me this as he was letting me know he had transferred money from savings.

Higher education ???

I was also proud to hear that my ds (then 16) was being encouraged to kiss a very drunk girl (older) and he said "Shes very drunk. Im not sure she can give proper consent" so he didnt.

You’re shocked he’s hovering his own house and giving coasters when you and his dad visit? As you’re stunned he’s grown up and doing normal household chores, he obviously wasn’t ever doing it while living at home with you judging by your shock at him doing it now!! In that case, I’m not sure why you’re taking credit for it as in most cases, it’s the partner that has them in ship shape, leaving them
lists of jobs to do so they’re not expecting to get waited on hand and foot like mammy done at home for them 😂😂
All my kids hover and fill the dishwasher, clean the table, older ones can put a wash on, among many other jobs, I wouldn’t be shocked when they leave home and doing the same in their own house because I know they’ve done it since they were young kids anyway.
What age is he?

Cob81
My goodness, what a sanctimonious little saint you are. God preserve us all!

Some people just love to piss over a nice thread. Can't have any positivity now can we!

Yes, exactly. It is such a shame I just want to let others know that when teenage lives are difficult, there is light at the end of the tunnel.

When my DS was a teen he would have been voted least likely to launch!!
Now own flat good job huge amount of social interaction within that.
But still gave a little chuckle when he says he’s been cooling with ALL the veg!
Let’s say he was a beige eater ! They do grow up and he’s often thanked us for pushing him a wee bit as he admits now he needed it.

😂so true!

Are you an OCS fan OP?

Don't worry they can't even spell

I remembered a couple more from my recent stay.

• Neutrodol in the shoe cupboard - 😂
• packing by laying his clothes out on the landing/hall - we always had long holidays abroad and to make sure we had packed everything we always layed out the piles on the landing, then we all sat beside our case as I called ‘denim shorts’, ‘red t-shirt’, ‘seven pairs of socks’ …😂

There are signs. I had one stepson you hardly saw his stuff. My other stepson left his jacket in one room, school bag on the counter, fridge door open… they ended up living together after uni and guess who was the housework police? It wasn’t the one who also left the house (London) with the door wide open!
My own son has lived on his own since he was 18. First job was KP in a café. So now he is so particular about how clean his kitchen is (he’s 22). His room is a bomb site though. His car is immaculate. I guess I thought he was an adult when he told me he had booked the hygienist and dentist at 19…
My DD (20) is very adult is even more adult in some areas but I still book the dentist for her!

Oh stop you're just showing off now 🤣🤣🤣🤣 (said with love and admiration)
You've done a good job clearly op and thanks for sharing this because it was lovely to read something so positive. Xx💖

My younger son was about 19 or 20 and he told his housemate that he was going to meet me for lunch. His housemate expressed horror and disbelief that he was going for lunch with his MOTHER and said 'how can you sit and talk to your mother for a couple of hours?' My son said 'how can YOU not?'

I was very proud when that was reported back to me (by a third party).

I am loving some of these.

My 19yo is home from uni. He has put the Christmas decorations in the loft for me without me having to ask and last night put the leftover takeaway in the fridge when usually I do it. One of the things that made me realise he was growing up was after he got a girlfriend and he/they sometimes like to cook for all of us when she stays over.

My DiL told me I’d done a good job!

My son and his wife got together when they were quite young. They share household tasks and they shared childcare when the children were young ( with help from grandparents). They both cook and there aren’t any blue or pink jobs.