A stranger on holiday never to be seen again

[Anotherrainydaynosurprise]

Just back from a sunny holiday and got chatting to a stranger by the pool bar. I was just with my daughter. We both talked about our love of a certain sport (I don't want to out myself). Our conversation was ended by my DD wanting to go back and sit by the pool. Back on my sunbed he looked at me but I was shy and looked away. I didn't see him again as I was flying back the next day.

Now home I find myself thinking about him a lot - we had a connection and he had a lovely voice. I wish I'd got his name so I could look him up. Not sure what I'm asking here - it's just I don't have these kind of connections very often and when I do I don't forget them and I thought in my 50s I wouldn't have this again but I had one last year and now again. It's the sliding doors moment of what would have happened if I had another day there or if we were able to chat for longer...

Anyone else meet an attractive stranger never to see them again?

Yes. I was in Ithaca and stopped in a waterside bar for a drink before catching the only bus I could catch back.
A guy at the bar sent me a drink over.. about 5 mins before the bus was due.
I had to gesticulate and use my basic Greek to thank him and explain that I had to get a bus…..
I really wish that I’d missed that bus.

What identifiers do you have. A first or last name in particular? If you have these and you are really sure there was some form of connection I would write to him via the hotel. Having worked in a hotel, we would not give you his address or email. We would however pass your note on, or make him aware that you wanted to pass a note on. I hear some of the stalking comments on here, but life is really short and sometimes you have to go for it a bit.

A nice holiday memory but in the real world, let it go and keep it as a memory.

Ooh!! Keep us updated @Anotherrainydaynosurprise!

Bygones are bygones, you have to let it go. But learning is achieved. You know what to do the next time you meet someone you like.

I hope you book a holiday next February and keep us updated!

I find these kind of things so frustrating! It’s hard to meet someone you click with, go on boring dates, etc and then you meet someone on holiday.

These kinds of things have happened to me. Met a guy on a foreign visit to my brother - we were at a bar, got talking whilst drinking, kissed. Never slept together but I asked him home to my brothers place and thought he’d leave the next day but hung around and spent the whole next day together and then made plans to meet the following day.
it was all very romantic. He walked me to my early morning train when I was leaving to go home.
Exchanged emails and kept in touch for a bit. We met up again a couple months later.

Ive had other ‘encounters’ where there was mutual attraction but nothing ever happened and I’ve often thought about these encounters.

just last Christmas I went to CenterParcs and had the cutest potential ‘meet-cute’. I was there with my son in his pram (I’m a solo mum) and my son spotted a dog and was babbling at it. An older woman saw my son and started talking to my son about the dog. The dog had a foreign-language name (my native language) and my son also had a foreign-language name. Actually my son’s name is very unusual and it’s always a conversation starter. So the woman says that the dog actually belongs to her son and then she introduces me to her son. Son is attractive and very friendly and felt a vibe with him. We have a little chat about the names and he picks the dog up so my son can see him better. We chat about other things too. It was all so random and actually being in the whole Christmassy vibe of Winter Wonderland, felt almost like a Hallmark movie! Ha!
I have no idea if the guy was married or anything but it was just so nice to meet an attractive, friendly stranger.
I hoped I would have bumped into him again on another day but didn’t. I hope that doesn’t sound sad but I honestly love these little encounters and would love (if they’re single and interested) if they were brave and ask for contact details.

Make sure your profile picture is clearly you and flattering and post something on the hotel facebook page like what a great holiday you had and hoping to come back next Feb. Then at least there’s a chance he’ll see it and can contact you

How do you know he doesnt have a wife?

I wouldn't book a holiday in Feb just to try and bump into him again because a) you might not book the right week b) you might see him there with a partner! Maybe get on a dating app and have a look who is available in your area because you may have ended up being nothing more than a holiday shag to a bloke on holiday and even if he was flying back to the same airport he could still live hours away from you - my partner and I usually always use the London airports despite living up north because the flights are a lot cheaper.

This. Wishing you well @Anotherrainydaynosurprise .

I don't blame you not giving too many details about yourself on here.

What's the Sistine chapel thread about?

I found the Sistine chapel thread. That must have been made up. Especially her being escorted out.

Thanks to all the replies. I’m just going to let this one go and file it in my brain with the other not meant to be encounters

Not quite the same situation, but I have on friend who met her husband when she was randomly seated next to him at the theater and another who met her husband on a train. So these random and fleeting encounters do sometimes result in long relationships. But seems like you'll never know.

That’s definitely the way OP - to let it go. It was a chance encounter that doesn’t have to mean anything in itself. But you could, if you wished, take it as an indicator that you would like/are ready for a relationship…And think about how you might make that happen…(I did OLD after being a single mum for 5 years - it was a rollercoaster, to put it mildly, but I’m now in a happy relationship as a result).

Yes, I was travelling in the USA with a friend in my early 20s. We'd been together 24/7 for weeks and were getting on each other's nerves and had an argument one night. I went outside and sat at a picnic table and cried. You know how dramatic everything can feel when youre young

This guy came and asked if I was OK, I said no and he sat with me and said everything would be all right and then just stayed and talked about nothing much till I felt better. I never knew his name or even what he looked like (it was dark), but he had such a lovely, calming presence I've never forgotten him.

What a lovely guy! I was travelling once with a friend and one night we had drinks with these guys. I stayed up drinking and talking to mine all night, he was so lovely and we really were attracted to each other but sadly he had a girlfriend back home and told me nothing would happen.

I've never forgotten him either!

After you could ask the hotel to pass a message on- if you know his name. Even just a first name if he was on his own. There won’t be many single guys booked in there.

My ex was the doctor that treated me when I was travelling. I had a 2 week stay in hospital and we swapped addresses when I was flown home. Never expected anything to come of it. We went on to have a fabulous 18 month relationship and are still friends 40 odd years later.

I’m sure plenty of people running the London marathon have gone away for half term OP 🤣

This is it. I’ve met several like this over the years. It’s tantalising because it isn’t reality. I can’t have real relationships unfortunately

Or wasn’t meant to be in the end

Well they are getting married this year…!

It's always cycling.

@AlcoholtakingherlifeNo I don’t cycle