How do you handle people who try to come back into your life?

[ThatHonestRedShark]

If someone you haven’t spoke to in months or even years suddenly reaches out - no prior contact, no gradual reconnecting, what do you do? Do you decline and keep the boundary, accept but stay cautious or let them back in fully?

AIBU to think past distance usually tells you everything you need to know?

I don’t expect to be in constant contact with anyone, but except Dh. I wouldn’t even really register someone who was quiet for a few months and popped back up. We all have stuff going on and assuming there was no fallout, they didn’t do something horrible to me or someone I cared about, and I actually wanted them in my life, I wouldn’t really even think about it. I’d respond if I wanted to or not if I didn’t.

I'd take it on a case by case basis. Do I want to reconnect? I've tentatively added a couple of people who made friend requests just to feel them out. If they haven't sent me a 'hello' privately within a week, I figure they are just wanting to nosy and delete them. Sometimes I've chosen to reconnect on friendly terms with the person who I have no issue with, just drifted. Sometimes I've chosen not to reconnect at all and ignored them.