Holiday accommodation

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AIBU to expect teenage step siblings of similar age (mid teens) and sex to share a room on holiday? They have lived together full time for the last year and generally get on, though have their own bedrooms.

AIBU to expect 12 year old twins of the same sex to share a room and a double bed on holiday?

accommodation with flexible bed arrangements seems scarce!

Consumed why people think it’s unreasonable for twins to share a bed! This is fine. They shared a womb ffs.

You’ve had some odd replies here. It’s really normal for families to share beds on holiday - most of the rooms in the USA and Disneyland Paris for example (just mentioning these as they’re places we’ve been recently) are set up for 4 people with 2 queen sized beds. When we travel - dh, me, dd aged 22 and Ds aged 13 we play bed Tetris as Dh snores so whoever sleeps next to him gets the short straw so usually dd and ds share and sometimes ds swaps with me and sleeps next to Dh. Obviously dd doesn’t share with Dh as that seems a bit weird but she’s more than happy to share with her half brother. It’s literally a bed to sleep in. We’ve all been to Majorca and Ibiza with the same set up too, and these were 5 star hotels. We use the bathroom to get changed and the bed is literally a bed to sleep in.

Not a double bed but a room yes. I have older teens, not and girl, we find plenty of accommodation that has separate beds for them. Interconnecting rooms are the favourite so we get two bathrooms between the 4 of us.

I think those scenarios are fine .... but I also think they shouldn't be "expected" if the DC in question are not happy about it.

We made a decision to prioritise space in accommodation over other things on holidays; this might be a choice you could offer up (i.e. we can go for more expensive accommodation so you can have your own room, but we won't be able to do xyz or go on holiday until next year)

I'm confused about the post though, it first say "step siblings" who know each other for a year, then say "twins".

Sharing a room is fine, but they should have a choice about sharing the bed, particularly if they aren't actually siblings.

At 12 ) or teens) ( are they twins or step siblings of similar age ?) they are old enough to involve in the planning

we have a budget - if we get this we will have 200 a day for doing things, if we get this we will have 10 a day to spend on food in the local supermarket , they are welcome to try and find other options …mother always said she wouldn’t go if we have to cook in every day - make your none negotiables clear if you can

In our house it’s absolutely fine for siblings to share a bed if they don’t mind. Ideally they would have single beds but if it’s the difference between going and not going I would get on with it.

Sometimes my younger DDs have shared a bed even if they did slightly grumble when that is all that was available due to emergency travel, unexpected room configuration or last minute booking. I wouldn’t expect any nonsense from them about it.

Sharing a room fine sharing a bed I don’t expect my full sibling children to share a bed so unreasonable on that account

Can’t really see an issue as long as the kids are all ok with it

Sharing a room is absolutely fine

I think sharing a bed is also fine if they generally get on. This would have been the norm years ago. I'm in my 40s and have good memories of family holidays with 3 cousins sharing a king and my sibling and me on camp beds all in the same room. We all had our own rooms at home.

You could sell it that you save money on accommodation and then there is more spare cash for meals or activities

3 bedroomed Holiday cottage, teenage boys who are step siblings going in a “kids” room with bunk beds then 2 bedrooms with double beds, parents in one and twin girls in the other. Double room is a bit plush and en-suite. Oldest boy is bitching about younger girls getting it. He thinks he should and the “youngsters” who are a combination of sexes and bio/step siblings share the kids room. He’s been told no!

Oh and the boys have known each other since they started school-just only lived together for a year. If this was a school trip they would have bloody well chosen to share. I full well know eldest is BU, just questioning if I am and we need to rent a bigger property, which would leave us with less spending money!

ok, so the update makes this a completely different question.

you've got 2 boys (ages? teenagers) and 2 girls (12 year old twins).

you've given the boys bunk beds and the girls a nice double.

but if the boys are teens, they will probably be far too big for the bunk beds - my teens would hit their heads on a holiday cottage bunk from age 13.

why not give the twin girls the bunks if the boys are happy to share a double bed?

I'd just share they share a room or theres no holiday.

The twins sharing a double bed is fine ,
they can bring sleeping bags and top and tail if they don’t want to share the actual duvet
or they can alternate one sleeps on the floor the other in the bed each night
we did this as kids four of us in a room with a double bed and camp beds on the floor
all kinds of combinations each night

Is the main issue the oldest boy doesn’t want to share at all?

How old is he? Assuming he’s not paying, he has no say whatsoever on who sleeps where. He sleeps where he’s told or he doesn’t get to come along.

I see no issue with any of this situations. It’s a holiday not a forever set up. Most people don’t have all four family members sharing a room at home but happens all the time on holiday (or sleeping on sofa beds rather then proper beds etc).

Seeing your update, I’d be tempted to give the boys the choice of the bunks beds in the smaller room, or share a bed in the nicer room. That way they are deciding which part is more important to them.

Given me and DH - like many other adults - regularly sleep in bunk beds in hostels I doubt very much that they will be too big !

It's weird to me that 12 year old twins sharing a bed on holiday is anything other than entirely unremarkable. People saying it's not ok or they might be squashed in a double or should bring a sleeping bag so they don't have to share a duvet? So bizarre.

So the question arose not because of bed sharing by twin sisters but by teenage boy wanting an en suite . Get the fuck young man .

Exactly!

I would not be giving the complaining boy the choice of which room. The children who don’t complain could be asked which room or the adults who are paying and in charge make the decision based on balancing the needs of everyone involved.

Depends. If it is an explicit "kids room" they may be shortie bunks, and DS was 6ft as a mid teen and definitely didn't fit in those!

Yeah your update changed it a bit!

One or other same sex “pair” has to share the double bed, and the other two have the bunks.

Your eldest presumably doesn’t want to share a bed with his step brother? That would be the other option.

So the two girls are his sisters and the other boy is an only (in terms of biology)? Makes absolutely the least sense of all for him to get the double to himself!

I would make sure the bunk beds are full length though - I wouldn’t ask my dd17 to sleep in a “kids” length bunk bed and she’s 5’4”!

Would both boys be happy to share a double if that means getting the plushier room and the en suite?

If so then I think the boys and girls need to flip a coin for who gets that room rather than it being assumed that the girls get it because they are twins/not step siblings.

I can’t see how one kid in the en suite double and the other 3 in the kids’ bunk room works at all !!