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My sisters having twins

10 replies

Sliverofdarkness · 19/02/2026 23:41

So we got some news today. My sister announced she's having twins. I must be an awful person but I could hardly find it in me to congratulate her. She already has 3 young children 9 and under and they live in a house that's already very tight on space, tiny garden, no room to extend, 3 kids in a small room, with a husband who barely contributes either financially or in terms of childcare. Most of the time he doesn't have a job and she's the main bread winner. All I could think is how could she be so stupid. She does get loads of help from her mother in law, but I can't help thinking that it's incredibly selfish of them and very unfair on their existing children and the mother in law. They said they weren't really trying but didn't mind the idea of having more children. Am I awful for feeling this way? It's probably just none of my business.

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wishfulthinking25 · 19/02/2026 23:52

You can’t help someone who doesn’t want to help themselves. Their version of happy and content doesn’t have to be yours, leave them to it.

Tink3rbell30 · 19/02/2026 23:54

Why would she do that when it's so easy to prevent? Baffles me.

WhaAMess · 19/02/2026 23:55

I’d feel the same. It really irresponsible and I would feel sorry for all of their children.

I would take a step back for your own peace of mind.

Doingtheboxerbeat · 20/02/2026 00:03

They already have 3 kids in a small room 🥺, oh god.
Are they renting or buying/bought their house? Although it's none of our business, I really don't understand people sometimes.

Muffinmam · 20/02/2026 00:04

I don’t understand how your sister could even engage in coitus with such an absolute loser.

It’s like her brain isn’t properly developed.

Butterties · 20/02/2026 00:07

It is none of your business and mean of you to post about her behind her back imho. Lots of people will just say horrible things about her now…why do you want that?

4ad4ever · 20/02/2026 00:09

YABU for inviting total strangers to judge your sister along with you.

If the kids are being taken care of and you’re not being asked to do anything, it’s definitely none of your business.

Random321 · 20/02/2026 00:13

No you are not awful for thinking this way. It's completely understandble given the circumstances and it is very selfish behaviour.

SouthLondonMum22 · 20/02/2026 00:14

It's very unwise and surprising that she's still attracted to her husband considering how useless he sounds.

canisquaeso · 20/02/2026 00:27

I mean, she’s already had 3 so she’s obviously only having more because she wants to.

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