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To think if a friend invites you out for dinner she would actually eat and not get so slaughtered you have to carry her home?

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WenchConnection · 16/06/2008 10:10

An old school friend I haven't seen in ages invited me out last weekend for some 'child free time'. We arranged to meet in a pub and I arrived a little late.
She had ordered a bottle of wine 'to share' but there was barely a glass left (I was only 20 minutes late).

I ordered another bottle and we polished it off at which point I assumed we'd head out for food, but she said 'oh just another', she went to the bar and came back with another bottle. Being a bit of a lush myself I didn't really mind but was getting bloody starving and not a little tipsy.

After convincing her we didn't need another bottle we went to a restaurant up the road. Of course she ordered a bottle of wine, no starter, I ordered an antipasti platter 'hoping she'd have some as she was seriously slurring but she didn't. When it came to ordering the main she said she didn't fancy anything, I said we could go elsewhere but she said 'oh just get a pizza and a salad and we can share'. She then ordered another bottle of wine.

The food arrived, she took two slices of pizza and didn't touch them, told me she had slimming world tomorrow so didn't want the calories, knocked back three glasses practically in a row and then lit a cig! I was so embarrassed and she laughed her way outside yelling 'oops'. At this point I paid the bill and met her outside hoping to get a taxi home but she stopped at every bar/club we passed wanting to go in.

It was midnight by this point and I was knackered and had to be up with the DC the next morning and didn't fancy babysitting a pissed 'semi friend'. She is however extremely persuasive and we ended up going into a late bar, as she promised 'to dance off the drink'. But no, she ordered a bottle of bloody champagne and then insisted we had to stay and drink it as it was 'sooo expensive'.

I did admittedly have a great time dancing but it escalated into a huge row when she insisted I buy a bottle of champagne too as it was 'only fair'. I offered to go halves on the one she bought and told her I was knackered and she was far too drunk (I was propping her up) and she seemed reasonable. Then as I was at the cloakroom she ordered two large beers 'for the road' by which she brought them out of the bar and was falling all over the street with them.

I endured her giving one to a tramp as if she was mother fucking theresa and then going on about how she'd made his night, shouting 'show me yer cock' at some random man, then she started puking everywhere. This was not fun in the middle of Soho on a saturday night (sunday morning to be precise) with tourists gawping at us.

She was so pissed no one would let us into a taxi and I ended up taking us to my friends club nearby and asking her to rescue us and drive her home. Her babysitter had to let her in and said 'oh not again'.

By this point I was craving NCT coffee mornings and softplay, this is what she reduced me to!

I have gone from being angry to being amused, then worried. This is not normal behaviour for a mother in her late twenties surely?

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WenchConnection · 16/06/2008 10:10

Bloody hell that was long, my mouth, er, fingers ran away with me.

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harman · 16/06/2008 10:13

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chipmonkey · 16/06/2008 10:15

Not normal behaviour even for a child free gal in her late teens IMO! She sounds like she has a problem.

LMAsMummy · 16/06/2008 10:15

So she basically drank her own bodyweight in booze??!! Blimey! Bet she felt HIDEOUS when she finally woke up. Have you heard from her since? (Did she end up in A&E?....)

wasabipeanut · 16/06/2008 10:15

Jesus, thats quite funny but quite scary.

Was this her 1st night out in months and months? Perhaps that is why she went beserk. But you are right - I don't think its normal.

Actually just seen your babysitter comment - this is obviously a regular thing. Personally I would avoid her if she wasn't a good friend.

I've tried to help a friend with a drink problem in the past but got accused of being judgemental so now I just tend to keep my opionions to myself.

WenchConnection · 16/06/2008 10:15

5 bottles of wine, and one of champagne, of which I drank less than two bottles, then beer? That is hardcore!

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nkf · 16/06/2008 10:17

You really stop these MN get togethers. They only lead to trouble.

WenchConnection · 16/06/2008 10:17

I have, she sent me a text yesterday afternoon saying 'had a wicked night lets do it again soon but bring our mates and have a proper night out'

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cornsilk · 16/06/2008 10:17

I like a drink as well, but that is a lot to drink and if you weren't happy to drink that much, then it's OTT.

Snaf · 16/06/2008 10:21

Blimey. Believe me, I'm the last person to lecture about the evils of overdoing it but that is going some.

WenchConnection · 16/06/2008 10:21

She goes out a lot, this is what worries me.

Her DD is six and she said 'I had her young so missed out' (she was 22, not that young), also 'I'm enjoying my freedom now she's not a baby, she never notices I'm gone'.

I beg to differ really, but as I say I haven't been close to her lately so can't really know.

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Carmenere · 16/06/2008 10:24

Well that is probelmatic drinking isn't it? It is not drinking to be sociable, it is drinking to get plastered and ignoring the social indications that it is time to stop or at least slow down(ie you). She may not be an alcoholic but she may be wanting to get plastered as an escape from other problems. If you value her as a friend you could ask her about it, if not, I would avoid her although that seems a bit sad.

jammi · 16/06/2008 10:27

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ChukkyPig · 16/06/2008 10:30

She sounds just like me .

I have had to stop going out without DH to keep an eye on me. I was always quite, erm, lively. But now I have DD and don't go out much, when I do get the chance to go out I get extremely overexcited and it all goes badly wrong!

Sounds like she was going it some but really that's up to her. I would suggest meeting her for lunch in future or going out with the kids or doing something where drinking would be blatantly inappropriate. That way you can still be friends but you don't have to carry her home.

MinkyChunky · 16/06/2008 10:30

She sounds like a catch. I like her chat up lines the best.

Fluffybitoffun · 16/06/2008 10:33

I used to think I drank a lot but compared to her I was a complete beginner - the most I think I ever managed in any one night was two bottles of wine.

Did she seriously drink the equivalent of four bottles and then some beer? That sounds like a serious problem to me.

WenchConnection · 16/06/2008 10:39

The babysitter was due to stay overnight, her DH got home from his night shift around 7am.
Hence the 'not again' I guess she must have done it before.

Thing is had I booked a babysitter I'd have expected to be home before 11, it was after all arranged as a quiet kid free dinner and catch up.

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jammi · 16/06/2008 10:44

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nappyaddict · 16/06/2008 10:51

i usually drink about 3 bottles of wine on a night out. doesn't seem that unusual tbh.

jammi · 16/06/2008 10:53

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WenchConnection · 16/06/2008 10:57

nappaddict, but would you on a night out that was meant to be a quiet meal? And would you end up puking in the gutter and yelling at strangers?

I'm all for a big night out, a few weeks ago went from a pub on saturday night to a club to a rave in the peak districts and didn't sleep until 5pm, but then my DC were away with their grandparents and it was a pre planned messy night out.

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nappyaddict · 16/06/2008 10:58

i once shouted twat at someone in the street and also U-G-L-Y you aint got no alibi, you ugly have also fell into a bottle bin and lost my memory of the last couple of hours of a night. that was on xmas eve.

when i haven't had a good night out for a few months i will try and drink loads and get really pissed. mostly i only ever end up tipsy though. seems to me like she just wanted a good night out.

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