Oh dear, I’ve upset the neighbours. Another parking thread

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I live in a cul de sac where everyone has their own driveways. Luckily, parking isn’t a problem as everyone uses their drives, and visitors do the same if there’s space, or sometimes they park on the street outside. Occasionally, we have delivery drivers or family members picking up or dropping someone off, which can block access, but it’s usually just for a few minutes. However, my neighbours daughter has this annoying habit of stopping in the middle of the cul de sac, blocking everyone’s access. It wouldn’t be a big deal if it was just a few minutes like everyone else, but she’s been known to stay there for 10-15 minutes. Her mum (my neighbour) has an empty driveway, so I really don’t get why she doesn’t just pull in and reverse out when she’s ready instead of sitting in the turning circle and making it difficult for everyone else. I’ve had to ask her a couple of times to move forward so I could get onto my drive, considering I’ve been waiting for her to move first. I can’t tell if she just pretends not to see people? It’s really strange.

Anyway, last night I came home, absolutely desperate for the toilet (sorry TMI), and there she was again. I pulled right up to her car, waited a few seconds, and ended up beeping the horn to let her know I was there. I have no idea how she didn’t see me because it was pitch black, my lights are bright, and the car isn’t super quiet either. I would have gotten out to talk to her, but I really needed to get inside. She finally got out of her car and said, “No need to beep, you just need to ask me to pull forward.” So I replied, “I don’t have time to ask you to move every time, why can’t you just pull onto the drive and wait?” She called me rude and got back in her car. I get that the beeping might have seemed aggressive, but that wasn’t my intention. I just wanted to get her attention so I could get inside and use the bloody toilet. I saw my neighbour (her mum) this morning, said hello, and she just looked at me and carried on. I guess I’ve pissed them both off.

AIBU or would this annoy you too? Would you get out every time to ask her to move? Was I rude?

Why is it ridiculous. If the girl is blocking other residents’ driveways that’s an offence - blocking access to a public highway. Fixed penalty notice of up to £200. OP can report the repeated incidents to 101 non emergency police number.

Oh silly cow what's wrong with her?!

Id be giving her a piece of my mind never mind a beep!

In fact i'd actually go and have a calm word with the neighbour. I'd approach it as a ''im really confused as to why your daughter sticks her car in the middle of the (fucking) road instead of pulling into the drive'' question.

some people are stupid and entitled.

At my parents house there is an access road/alley for cars to get to the back of our houses.

Woman living in house on opposite side of the road regularly just blocks the entrance as though the road isn’t even there.

i had to pick parents up from airport once early morning and lo and behold I couldn’t get out as she was there. Got out of car, knocked on door to ask her to move.

i was very polite to her but she was FURIOUS at my audacity for waking her up 😂. Yes it was 5am but she is so thick that she couldn’t understand that her ignorant behaviour (people are always asking her to move, she has even had tickets) is why I was knocking in the first place 🙄.

So she is actually sitting in her car rather than at her mum's house?

If I was desperate for a week I would have just blocked her in and run inside!!

I hate people like this. It’s entitlement. If she is pissing off a few of you then you all need to complain to her mother. Failing that, all beep like fuck when she’s blocking one of you

She’s a rude idiot

speak to her mother

Beeping and high beams and if she had a shity atitude a few choice words

Your neighbour’s daughter is a twat.
You did the right thing OP and I think you handled it very well.
I echo other posters in suggesting you try and have a quick chat with the girl’s mother to try and help her understand that her daughter is being selfish blocking the road for no reason.
If that doesn’t work, I think you need to help the daughter by installing a car runway system on the road with landing (driving) lights, you in a high viz vest with green lights in each hand to help direct the young lady onto her drive. You may need to repeat the sequence 15 minutes later using red lights to help guide her off the drive.

Complete inconsiderate, selfish and defensive airhead! Some people really are unbelievable 😳

You shouldn't have needed to ask her ro move. She should have been able to read the situation realise she needed to move without being asked.

How would being nice help though? They’re being dicks and being nice will make them think you’re not bothered by it and are happy to keep asking them to move!

Love imagining what I would do in these situations.
My street is similar. Narrow entrance, square turning circle with a ( ) shape of kerb on either side of the space. One ( ) has a tree on, the other is a parking spot bought by a neighbour. The square 'turning circle' has detached garages either side too.
My drive is directly opposite the ( ) with a tree on - some idiots literally park bang opposite my drive, with wheels on the grass surrounding the tree. If someone is parked on the street too then I'm blocked in! But it hasn't happened to me yet. I ought to draw a diagram really.

Some people park blocking access to the detached garages, my neighbours just pull up and lay on the horn until whoever it is rushes out to move.
Once there was an Evri driver who stopped in the middle of the road to deliver parcels, door wide open, fair enough, so I waited, but then after he'd delivered the parcel he went back in the van, grabbed a Greggs bag and his vape and stood eating and smoking!!!! I was shocked. And thrilled I got to lay on my horn too

Agree, block HER in, why are people so entitled / selfish these days? (Maybe, although I hate this type of stuff, be casually ready with phone / video her parking, reaction at actually being called out on this etc). Or, as suggested, be overly nice, have a Very Polite chat with her mum & explain the issue. 🌷