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To remove a pebble from a beach?

198 replies

Pigeonpoodle · 16/02/2026 10:50

I saw this on another thread… Apparently “everyone knows that’s wrong!” I’ve very occasionally taken the odd interesting pebble as a momento. AIBU to have done that… What on earth could be the problem with it? One pebble amongst billions!

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Itsmetheflamingo · 16/02/2026 11:57

FryingPam · 16/02/2026 11:53

Nope. Let’s assume there are one billion pebbles on a beach, and - yearly average, more in summer, less in winter - 50 people per day. If everyone takes one, we’d lose 18k pebbles per year. One billion minus 18k doesn’t sound too dramatic to me, I think global warming will wipe us all out before we get to a point where 18k per year reasonably affect the one billion.

That completely depends on how many pebbles it takes to erode that section of coastline though doesn’t it? Maybe you’re on a section that’s already eroding due go pebble/ shell deficiency

there is no argument that our coastline isn’t eroding, so it’s not like it’s some abstract idea

Astronautsdontcareaboutbeans · 16/02/2026 11:59

Weeklyreport · 16/02/2026 10:57

Just imagine if everyone did it. Its not that difficult to understand. You should leave things as you find them them, whether the beach or countryside. Don't leave litter behind and don't remove part of the landscape.

There’s an average of 100m pebbles on a 1km beach. So if everyone in the UK took a stone once a year from ONE beach there would still be about 40m pebbles left on that one 1km stretch of beach.

And a few trillion pebbles on the other thousands of km of beach. Use your brain!!

TheKeatingFive · 16/02/2026 12:03

A pebble? Seriously, this is what people can get worked up about?

Astronautsdontcareaboutbeans · 16/02/2026 12:03

The ‘laws’ are in place to stop wholesale scooping up of beach pebbles to sell (for gravel etc) not to stop little Katie taking home a pretty pebble she found on her family holiday and she’ll treasure. Again, engage brain.

TheKeatingFive · 16/02/2026 12:06

Astronautsdontcareaboutbeans · 16/02/2026 12:03

The ‘laws’ are in place to stop wholesale scooping up of beach pebbles to sell (for gravel etc) not to stop little Katie taking home a pretty pebble she found on her family holiday and she’ll treasure. Again, engage brain.

Exactly

Somnambule · 16/02/2026 12:09

Yeah, no, sorry I'm not going to stop doing this or stop my kids from doing it either, for reasons others have laid out above. Ditto bringing a few pretty shells home from a beach that has millions.

Whatkindoffuckeryisthiss · 16/02/2026 12:09

As I said on the original thread, how many of the posters utterly aghast that someone would take a small pebble or shell from a beach, have ever taken a cruise or a ferry? How many work in industries that directly or indirectly impact on marine ecology? How many use end products stemming from aggressive agriculture.
Untwist your knickers. I am from a coastal area. Even now I’ll pick up detritus from the beach on occasion. I suspect that nearby nuclear/military activity, and the runoff from farms have a far greater impact on the wildlife and ecosystems. When they stop, I’ll stop lifting a couple of pebbles every few years.

youalright · 16/02/2026 12:10

I won't be stopping my kids from taking a shell or pebble home from the beach just like I did as a kid

DownsideUpside · 16/02/2026 12:11

Astronautsdontcareaboutbeans · 16/02/2026 12:03

The ‘laws’ are in place to stop wholesale scooping up of beach pebbles to sell (for gravel etc) not to stop little Katie taking home a pretty pebble she found on her family holiday and she’ll treasure. Again, engage brain.

Exactly this.

Also find it strange that people are ok with buying tonnes of pebbles that have been “legally” mined/ sourced for their gardens but are not ok with a child taking a few pebbles from the beach. They all come from the same place - the earth. One is clearly a much bigger threat to the ecosystem than the other but it’s ok because its licenced?

Itsmetheflamingo · 16/02/2026 12:11

Whatkindoffuckeryisthiss · 16/02/2026 12:09

As I said on the original thread, how many of the posters utterly aghast that someone would take a small pebble or shell from a beach, have ever taken a cruise or a ferry? How many work in industries that directly or indirectly impact on marine ecology? How many use end products stemming from aggressive agriculture.
Untwist your knickers. I am from a coastal area. Even now I’ll pick up detritus from the beach on occasion. I suspect that nearby nuclear/military activity, and the runoff from farms have a far greater impact on the wildlife and ecosystems. When they stop, I’ll stop lifting a couple of pebbles every few years.

I agree with you esp rerun off from industry and agriculture but I don’t think anyone is agast, on either thread. It’s not a big deal.

MrFluffyDogIsMyBestFriend · 16/02/2026 12:12

busyd4y · 16/02/2026 11:53

You might have had my sympathy until you last sentence, what a nasty sneering judgement

Caring about pebbles has got nothing to do with where anyone shops

She's trying to say that foraging bits and bobs from nature is natural human behaviour. Those buying crap in Dunelm etc are doing far more damage to the environment.

It's just insanity that the climate is currently collapsing, coral reefs have now mostly died, the ocean is full of plastic, and people are up in arms about someone picking up a pebble.

HRTQueen · 16/02/2026 12:14

one of my all time favourite threads was about removing pebbles from beaches 😁

it was hilarious the drama (we shall be flooded because of such stupidity) and stepped up competitive outrage

here's hoping this one follows suit, but unlikely to be as entertaining as the original

Balkancity · 16/02/2026 12:14

In nature, I have typically followed the rule of "taking only memories and leaving only footprints". Sadly where we live we do often have to pick up trash around the lake too - but we take nothing that belongs there.

Carollanne · 16/02/2026 12:16

FryingPam · 16/02/2026 11:18

Before people jump at me, no, I won’t do it anymore, now that I’ve looked it up and realise it’s not allowed. However, I do wonder if the regulations are there to prevent people to take buckets of pebbles for their front garden or whatever, rather than picking up one single pebble. It’s quite obvious that it’s not a good idea to take big quantities, not so much how one pebble makes a difference, even if everyone takes one.

Yeah, I agree. I think it's to stop people from taking loads of pebbles (or gravel, or similar) for their gardens. It's just easier to make a law to ban it altogether.

I know you're not meant to take single little pebbles either. But I do it anyway. So sue me. The whole "but what if everyone did it?!" argument falls down the moment you actually start crunching numbers. There really are just THAT many pebbles.

flightyfighter · 16/02/2026 12:16

I understand the principle but it's not like everyone who visits beaches takes one is it? It should be discouraged but let's be realistic. I often pick something up to look at then drop it further down the beach, may have confused some crabs.

gamerchick · 16/02/2026 12:17

Caring about pebbles has got nothing to do with where anyone shops

Can see the marches now with the shirts and placards.

InNewYorkNoShoes · 16/02/2026 12:17

EleanorReally · 16/02/2026 11:31

what about all those painted pebbles ?
is that illegal?

Yes. That’s a VERY serious crime.

HelpMeGetThrough · 16/02/2026 12:19

AnAppleAWeek · 16/02/2026 11:21

It’s the sort of thing a smug clipboard holding, rule follower loves to get wound up about!

Yep. Some who has done an NVQ in clipboard management and wears a high viz jacket.

This place is good entertainment though.

EleanorReally · 16/02/2026 12:20

i wouldnt pick wild flowers
but i do forage blackberries
is that wrong now?

DenizenOfAisleOfShame · 16/02/2026 12:20

This is just an example of finger-waggers wanting to be “involved” and superior.

If bulldozers remove tons of pebbles from a beach of course it would make a difference to coastal erosion and habitat. If day trippers take a few pebbles it won’t make any difference.

But the self-appointed priests of ‘proper’ behaviour won’t ever accept that. Because they’re absolutist control freaks, that’s what gets them out of bed in the morning.

youalright · 16/02/2026 12:21

flightyfighter · 16/02/2026 12:16

I understand the principle but it's not like everyone who visits beaches takes one is it? It should be discouraged but let's be realistic. I often pick something up to look at then drop it further down the beach, may have confused some crabs.

Exactly I've only ever known kids to do this and usually kids who don't go to the beach very often. I have no interest as an adult doing this but I did as a kid and my kids do

anothercoffeepls · 16/02/2026 12:24

This is MN where they do no wrong and people on here would even hand in a £1 coin to the police station that they found on the street.

likelysuspect · 16/02/2026 12:24

I assume the finger waggers and outraged all use reusable nappies and not disposable nappies?

senua · 16/02/2026 12:25

In a way it's like ... taking fruit off wild bushes. We don't have enough for wildlife
Have you been out in the wild recently? Bushes still have plenty of berries etc, either on the bush or dropped on the ground. Wildlife is not starving due to lack of fruit!

Itsmetheflamingo · 16/02/2026 12:25

EleanorReally · 16/02/2026 12:20

i wouldnt pick wild flowers
but i do forage blackberries
is that wrong now?

Eh? Blackberries are regenerative. They grow to be picked. They taste good so they get picked! They’re one of natures “pick mes”

how could that be comparable to pebbles? A new one doesn’t grow in its place!