I’ve been horrible this morning

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I’ve snapped at my five year old and two year old and it was neither of their fault . I’m a teacher and work part time but have this week off. DD(2) does to nursery Monday and Thursdays.

I had booked my DS(5) into a sports holiday club for the morning just to get a chance to catch up on housework. Meanwhile ny brother (adult but with autism) has a job interview he wanted taking to. DH has bought a new car and started fussing that something wasn’t right with it so decided to go out and sort it leaving me to sort both children with getting dressed and breakfast etc.

A friend of mine gave me a massive bag of stuff kindly meant I know but kids decided to go rummaging through it when I was getting dressed and as well as a huge mess DD is also crying and tantrumming over a pair of sandals with Elsa on them which don’t even fit even if it wasn’t February. Then brother tings to say his interview is over on the other side of town.

and then I snap at my five year old for talking nonsense about his best friend being six and he is five (best friend is not six.)

have apologised but feel so horrible he got the brunt of my morning.

Snapping at your kids - that’s a standard morning !
you don’t sound horrible, you sound human and busy

They'll be fine.

It is the way that the first day of the holiday is when you argue with someone - put a plan together for the work you need to do and focus on the things you will enjoy. You do not need to argue with six year olds - you can’t win😂. Teaching is stressful so is the break from teaching!

It takes time to decompress In the holidays. Also the pressure of “it’s my day off, I should….” then list off a realm of jobs to do, whilst also feeling a tiny bit resentful that days off used to be about a lie in, and doing what you want to do.

Apologise to your son, repair and move on. Try and have a nice lunch or something for you, before you get him out of club later. Have a good day!

Unreasonable to take your stress out on the kids but totally normal and not social services worthy. Apologise, move on and try not to do it again, just like you would surely teach your kids to.

It sounds as though everyone else is prioritising their important ’thing’, and you are left trying to cram the DC and yourself into a pot that’s too small!

Leave the stuff your friend has donated where it is. DH can sort that out when he gets back from the car stuff. You apologised to the DC, which is good- they see you managing your emotions and your mistakes.

An old boyfriend used to say, Don’t get mad, get even! I have amended that to Don’t get mad, make a plan! It’s a learning opportunity to avoid being put in this situation again. That might be, all bags and boxes delivered go in a cupboard until they can be dealt with, or no one leaves the house until both DC are ready.

You’re human, it happens!
Your DH should have mucked in with the kids and not buggered off to tinker with his new toy and your brother should be sorting transport himself. No wonder you feel frazzled already!

Unreasonable to take your irritation out on your kids but I would say every parent on the planet is guilty of this occasionally! So forgive yourself, move on, deep breath.

Your db needs to sort himself out with an Uber or public transport - how will he get to his new job if he can’t get to the interview?

Your dh needs to realise it’s your holiday too and not to leave you in the lurch

Sounds like a pretty stressful morning when you have a lot on your plate! Deep breaths! Don't beat yourself up, give your little ones a cuddle and they will be fine. We've all snapped unreasonably on occasion, I don't know any parent that hasn't! Try and relax and enjoy your week away from work (easier said than done, I know!)