am i unreasonable

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Hello , i am just recently diagnosed with AF amongst other issues and under a cardiologist and have a treatment plan. My husband is the one who has had affairs, looks at pron and generally flips back and says i am the one unreasonable. i think the stress i have been under has contributed to my af and now he is saying i am not nice to him. i am really really trying but struggling to do my best. i have said if i am stopping him do stuff he really wants (no one is going to judge him) then he must move on... today we went out for lunch and he walked on ahead... :(

thank everyone i just need to get strong hard to face this and health issues am sure i am not the only one but very difficult to juggle it all when as you say someone is not understanding and i just dont get it one minute nice as pie and then tonight honestly stressing me out.. i dont want to stress my mum and have just come to bed in tears as he plays a game.. honestly what am i dong and how do i get out of this mess

i think we are past talking how do i go about getting things moving i amm sick of living like this i thought marriage was for life but nothing is worht living like this

You’re living with your mum? Can you not just tell him to leave? Tell him you need space. Then get some legal advice in the meantime? I sympathise with the heart stuff, I have LBB. But you need to cut him out of your life. Now.

Tell him to leave your mothers house.
Involve the police.
Don't buy another property.
Move any money to your own account and go through a solicitor.
You can do this.
Ask for help.
But get him out of your mothers house.
Tell your medical team and women's aid.

It’s good that you’re at your mum’s house and even better that she can see him for who he is.
Tell him to leave. Whatever you do, DO NOT tie yourself into owning another property with him! I’ll hazard a guess that your head will be much clearer when he’s not around.