My son is autistic (profoundly) and it is extremely stressful and difficult to cut his hair. Normally ex does it while I have to hold DS hands and stop him thrashing around.
Last time he did it I took him back to mine and I noticed a scratch from the clippers on his back, I took a photo a sent it to ex saying oh no, poor DS 😢
Ex took it really badly saying how I was accusing him of intentionally harming DS, I apologised immediately and said that really wasn’t my intention, I deleted the photo and reassured him that he did a really good job in very difficult circumstances.
Oldest said today that his dad will no longer help cut his brothers hair as “I have full custody”
I told oldest that his dad and I will discuss that together. I text ex and he said that my behaviour has been erratic and he doesn’t trust what I would do should that happen again (DS getting clipped) I also don’t like the idea of him discussing private matters with oldest or saying that I’ve been accusing his dad of stuff, I haven’t.
So this leaves me in the lurch now as it was always something we would do together. Was I very wrong to send him that photo? I didn’t mean anything by it or accuse him of anything.
Opinions welcome, thank you.