To not be arsed to work anymore

[AurielleBaies]

I just can’t do this for years and years and years. I’m actually unemployed right now and the happiest I’ve ever been. I’m actively looking for a new role but it’s all bullshit, massive JD’s for mediocre pay and mainly 5 days in the office. There is just so much more to life, why did humans create this way of living?

How about working for a charity? Use your skills in a worthwhile organisation. There are marketing roles in that sector, although the salaries may not be as high as you’re used to.

Work our how much you need to survive on. Then Work hard save hard and retire early.

Their expectations are too high compared to the salary they offer with the roles. Then they wonder why they can’t recruit or have to go out 3 or 4 times and end up with sub standard candidates. I’ve seen that first hand where I work. We are advertising two head of department roles and my boss told me about the roles. But the additional work and responsibility just isn’t worth it.

OP, you are not the first person to feel like this, I recommend the book Bullshit Jobs
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bullshit_Jobs

I also get where you are coming from - you are not saying you are not going to work (you understand the necessity from an affording to live point of view) but are not feeling the motivation.

How does your husband feel about funding you while you decide that you just can't be bothered working? Personally if my husband was out of work, living off me, and was complaining about having to go back to work (and not actively trying to retrain or at least get some PT work) I'd be fuming.

If you don't want to go back to your marketing role, that's fine. If it's a difficult job industry anyway why not find something you want to do? But sitting around complaining about work isn't really fair on your husband when you are only 32 and apparently trying to save for a house!

Society would collapse?

Yanbu

I'm 62. I've worked full time since I was 21, except one maternity leave.

It's getting harder to get up in the morning. The mortgage will be paid in the summer, school fees end in April. The temptation to say "oh, sod it" is getting stronger. 😁

I totally get what you are saying - so many jobs are absolute meaningless bullshit yet we're supposed to care enough about doing them that we happily spend most of our waking hours slaving for it.

I was having similar thoughts this morning when I didn't want to get out of bed - it's just "work til this small break, work again til the next small break" over and over a-bloody-gain! And I work in healthcare so I do see the absolute necessity of my job but fuck me the relentlessness of it pisses me off!

Bit harsh. My husband is extremely supportive. I’ve only been out of work a few months (left due to health problems) and actively trying to get another role. I spend hours a day looking. I’m also helping out a family member with their business so I’m not doing nothing.

Ive also made sacrifices for him along the way (like moving to the other side of the world for his career).

But going by your original post... he should just give up his job.

Obviously a partner will be supportive in the short term but IMO a couple of months is a long time.

Well what am I meant to do? Magic a job up? A couple of months is NOT a long time considering I’ve been working in some capacity since I was 14.

my original post wasn’t meant to be read so literally.

It's a long time (IMO) when you are relying on someone else to support you whilst trying to save for a new home, and then complaining about having to go back to work.

Plenty of people (myself included) have suggested you find a different area to work in of marketing isn't doing it for you. You are young, you can retrain or shift your area of focus if you don't feel excited to go back to work.

You wrote it literally so I'll read it literally. Yiu were quite explicit about how literal you meant it.

I’m complaining about going back to work but obviously I will have to because that’s modern life and if we want to buy a house, I don’t have a choice. As I’ve said, I’ve been applying for as much as possible.

Retraining takes time and money. Not saying never, but right now it’s not doable.

Ordering this book! Thanks

I know what you mean. I used to do a corporate job. I was lucky enough to be able to pivot into a family farming business. I couldn’t go back to my old life if you paid me a million a year.

The difference isn’t money, job satisfaction or working from home. I feel the job I do has purpose. I’m adding to society and the world in general. I feel useful. We have a number of staff who say it’s the best place they’ve worked. Not great pay, shit hours and dirty. But they are valued by us and every day they can see the purpose in why they came in.

Well, I can’t vote until I know - what age are you?
Have you already been doing this for years and years?

I often think what’s the point of it. You get old and ill and everything you’ve worked hard for just goes down the pan. Care needs assessment, financial assessments. You lose everything eventually.

So you think that all the people who are doing proper, non-made-up jobs should keep working, but all the people who have chosen to do pointless, made-up jobs should just stop? Yep, that sounds totally reasonable

It's not just modern life. People still had to work before bullshit jobs existed.

Sorry, just realised that you did say that you are 32 years old. I’m guessing no children as you mentioned husband and dog.
So, eh, yeah just get on with it.
Like everyone else.
Or go back and retrain in a career that pays more and offers more satisfaction before you have children.