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AIBU?

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... To report our neighbours to the police?

13 replies

WiddlinDiddlin · 12/02/2026 15:50

We've had an increasing number of incidents in our end of the cul-de-sac, where the bloke a few doors down is out in the street, doors being slammed, very very aggressive shouting and screaming from him to a woman - no idea if she is a partner, ex partner or adult offspring.

The general gist appears to be (bearing in mind I am hearing this through double glazing or occasionally open bedroom window at night) that she wants money, he doesn't want to give it to her.

The level of aggression seems to be rising, sounded like one of them full on threw a wheely bin today, no idea if it was just a general throw or actually at someone, daren't stick my head out the door (can't actually see out of our front windows they have frosted film on) - sometimes they seem to chase each other round the estate screaming and swearing and insulting.

We had a knock from the police a couple of weeks back as evidently a neighbour had made a complaint. Things have escalated to the point where its now every other day, sometimes several days in a row and significantly worse at weekends, so I've reported online.

I don't think thats the wrong thing to do but I wonder if I should have called 101, or done this sooner. I wonder how long everyone else would ignore this?

There is absolutely no way Im going to talk to him, he's a pretty aggressive bloke and it does sound like he'd rather she didn't show up here anyway, though obviously I have about 2% of the story and assumptions as to what is going on (DP and I both think its an adult daughter with a drug problem, tapping Dad up for money, but that is pretty much idle conjecture at this point!).

So, YABU to have left it this long to report it.
YANBU to have reported it at this point but not sooner.

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DaisyChain505 · 12/02/2026 15:51

it’s never too late to report something.

TomPettysBrokenHeart · 12/02/2026 15:53

DaisyChain505 · 12/02/2026 15:51

it’s never too late to report something.

This. Good for you widdlindiddlin, don't beat yourself up about not reporting it sooner.

Wakemeupinapril · 12/02/2026 15:54

I once rang 999 on our ndn. No regrets. They actually thanked me next day as they knew things had escalated.
One had picked up a knife..

AgnesMcDoo · 12/02/2026 15:57

If you have concerns- report

MarzipanMice · 12/02/2026 16:00

I’d ring 101 and report it. If things are escalating then the information will be useful to the police.

Lightuptheroom · 12/02/2026 16:03

I had to ring 999 because the wife of ndn tried to attack him in the street with a baseball bat and then tried to say he'd hit her. He thanked me as the police wouldn't believe him when he'd reported a previous assault

NoCommentingFromNowOn · 12/02/2026 16:04

Erm, sorry I got confused re voting and voted yabu but hardly anyone else has so think I might have misunderstood.

Report away, that is their job to respond to reports, if multiple neighbours are doing so it will escalate the complaints, and these things have a habit of getting worse.

WiddlinDiddlin · 12/02/2026 16:34

Don't worry @NoCommentingFromNowOn I suspect it wasn't the clearest way of setting that out!

I do feel a bit bad that I've just tried to ignore this and its taken another neighbour reporting it to make me think 'actually... yeah, this isn't ok'.

I have lived in some VERY dodgy places in the past where this level of abuse/unpleasant behaviour in public would be daily, and unremarkable and I do think that's affected how I see things a bit. In one street I lived in, the police were unlikely to show up unless blood was flowing down the pavement (Which on several occasions it was)...

Hey ho! I am hopeful that this might result in whichever of them thats needing help, actually gets it!

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OhDear111 · 12/02/2026 16:37

Where I live, I’d have contacted the police very quickly! Men aggressively shouting at a woman? Red flag!

youalright · 12/02/2026 16:44

Please ring police my dd is in a violent relationship and I'm so relieved that there neighbours ring the police because one of them is going to end up dead

BillieWiper · 12/02/2026 16:45

So you've spoken to the police in person and also reported the escalation to 101 online?

Ok well that seems reasonable. No need to worry if you should've acted sooner. You've done it now. I'd say add in the council if it's ASB/noise disturbance related also.

I'm presuming the whole street are complaining at this point. So there's no way they'll know it's you specifically.

I suppose the dream would be they move out. I guess in extreme circumstances if it was SH they could be asked to leave. But it may not be serious enough at this point to reach that threshold. If they've got a landlord (SH or private) I guess you could approach them. If they own then there's less hope they'll disappear.

WiddlinDiddlin · 12/02/2026 18:17

No, someone else reported, we know because police attended a few days later and knocked on our door too and spoke to us, we confirmed that yes, there are frequent disturbances from that address and the general nature of that.

That was a couple of weeks back, it was quiet for a few days and has started ramping up again - today lasted only a few minutes so I did an online report (just the online version of 101, easier for me as our phones have next to no signal inside the house and I wasn't really wanting to go to the front door where there is signal (have to sit in my wheelchair with the front door open, leaning into the porch!).

If it kicks off again I'll re-evaluate, maybe send DP out back to 999 it if its in the middle of the night. Annoyingly, I am currently housebound so can't make calls inside unless they're WhatsApp calls (dont think I can whatsapp call 999 can i?).

Fingers x our phone signal issues are resolved soon, thats a whole other infuriating situation!

I've no idea if he owns or is a tenant, some on the cul-de-sac are owned, some still housing association (and they are particularly poor at dealing with complaints about tenant behaviour from non-tenants!).

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WiddlinDiddlin · 13/02/2026 21:05

Quite impressed they called me back this morning (somewhat less impressed at being woken at 9am, I work late so get up pretty late! But hey ho... ).

They will be sending someone out for ANOTHER chat with the tenant (confirming it is a tenant) and they also confirmed my report is far from the only one and will be contacting the housing association, but don't think there is much more than can do unless things escalate further, which I can understand.

He did say if things do escalate as there have been prior reports, should we need to call 999, it would likely get a faster response (Whilst at the same time not actually making any promises of course, there could be something much more serious kicking off at any point!).

Fingers x the chat does the trick!

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