Matching dresses for a wedding, tacky or not?

[GoAwayNaughtyPigeon]

Looking for opinions as I haven't yet decided what to dress my 2 DDs in! Have a wedding to attend this year, everyone invited etc. 2 DDs, will be 3 and 1 at time of wedding. Is it cute or tacky to wear matching dresses?! I don't normally like matchy matchy clothes and think it looks quite tacky but for a wedding in feel its a bit different. (They aren't flower girls, just regular guests)

Either way I will not be spending £100s on dresses for them and will probably get something on Vinted or from Next or M&S or similar price range, certainly not shelling out for something very expensive for a one day event that they'll inevitably get covered in food anyway 😂

If they match I think people could assume they’re bridesmaids. I wouldn’t personally

Yeah it would run this risk

I think it would be cute, but I think the might be mistaken as being part of the bridal party.

Hmmm. Let the baby be the baby and older DD have some choice. I never found baby clothes were the same as 3 year old clothes. Sounds like fun so fine 3 year old a limited choice and you definitely don’t have to spend much.

If you’re buying off Vinted anyway then just get separate dresses. I don’t think it’s tacky to match children’s outfits from time to time to be honest, and I wouldn’t mind your children coming in same dresses to my wedding.

I don't think it's a problem at that age as long as you avoid dresses that look like flower girl dresses. Don't use the colour scheme etc.
That sounds like a tiring day for you!!

Perhaps get the 1 year old from Vinted and let 3 year old choose her dress from next or M&S

Tacky, sorry. Maybe same dresses in different colours? Though personally unless a wee one is a confident Walker I hate seeing them in dresses as it seems so uncomfortable to be carried in a dress and try to stand up or crawl etc. Always makes me feel that females are at a disadvantage right from the word go in terms of our looks being prioritised over our comfort. So a cute play suit type outfit for the baby and a dress for the older one might be a refreshing option!

Matching clothes is yuck unless maybe if they are twins. I have a sister in law who still matches her 8 and 11 year old. Makes me feel so sorry for the 11 year old as there’s such a diff between that tween age clothing and an 8 year old. Awful.

Next or M&S may have ranges where you could get similar things which would be cute but without being absolutely matching which could look too flower girly.

Might be worth checking with the bride. My 5 and 8 year olds will be wearing matching dresses to a wedding soon as they saw the same one in the shop and were both desperate to have it, but I didn’t buy it until I’d sent photos to the bride in case it made them look too much like bridesmaids. (She was fine with it but said she did appreciate me checking.)

I dress my DC in matching outfits all the time, they like to be dressed the same. I remember DM dressing me and my two sisters in matching Mothercare dresses for a wedding once, we all looked lovely.

Nobody is going to think that a 1 and 3 year old wearing the same dress are bridesmaids if they are wearing normal dresses. Any flower girls/bridesmaids would be dressed in proper bridesmaids dresses surely, and they’ll also have flowers.

I tend to do on a theme, you get some lovely ted baker dresses from the same collection on Vinted, so similar but not matching.

When I see kids in matching clothing I don't really think it is cute or tacky. It is just small kifs wearing matching outfits, no further thoughts.

I think it looks cute .. just avoid the colours in the bridal party. We have loads of family photos of weddings in the 70s & 80s where Children are matching

Though this was pre Insta-Crap, Bridezilla, Wedding Planner, Demanding, Boundary setting nonesense we seem to have now.

I thought op meant her and the children matching! I’ve a photo of me as a small child wearing a dress from the same material as my mums . Also round the pool in Florida a couple of years ago where mum dad grandma and grandad and the five children all had the same patterned swimwear on. They looked completely insufferable, there was an aura of look how fertile we are!

I got matching dresses for my daughters (ages 9 months and 3) for my sister’s wedding. I checked with her before buying the dresses and she wasn’t bothered in the slightest. Nobody thought they were bridesmaids, but as I’m writing that now I can’t even see it would be a problem if someone did think that.

I had 3 girls, and found same/similar dress in different colours a nicer look, and you could pass them down to the younger ones without it being the same dress for years. I only once dressed them alike (leggings and tunic) and honestly think it looks weird in the photos!

I think matching would be cute! And I bet your 3-year-old would love it.

Massively tacky.
Get them different outfits, preferably in different colours. They're two individuals, not a pair of book ends.

I have boys, but never dressed them the same except when they were page boys. They did have "coordinating" outfits though. So the same colour scheme.

My 2 nephews wore matching shorts and tops to our wedding , they looked super cute ( and no one thought they were page boys )
Just find out the colour the bridesmaids are wearing , and choose something different !

Dislike matching; I would go for similar but different dresses.

Maybe in the same/similar colours but not exact same dresses. But also..nobody is going to be paying any attention to what they wear.

As per pp's. I think the three of you in matching outfits would look cute!. Alternatively (as per pp) go for the same colour palette or style. Is there a male partner/husband going who could wear a tie/waistcoat In same colour/shadow?

I think being coordinated in what ever way you decide will look great.