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AIBU?

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Poptyping123 · 11/02/2026 22:29

OK, so want to keep it as short and sweet as possible. Been with partner for 11 years. He's now a pilot, I stay at home with our youngest. I've supported him fully etc left him to it, helped financially, tea on table. Never had many suspicions of any other women, heard the odd thing from many years ago, he was a bit of a boy at the time of meeting but whatever it's been 11 years. I do find he looks at women a lot, even my 12yo son noticed this one day. I've never pulled him up on it though as I feel he would just love the fact I feel insecure at this. He loves attention,always has. Says only from me.. 🙄Theres been a time he was a little shady with his phone but again that was probably 3 years ago now. We've had our ups and downs but still together but recently I'll admit I do feel insecure now. Had always trusted him (until those little things appear). I guess I feel quite low with my appearance, cant get botox or anything like that as still breastfeeding our youngest, hair is probably not the best shade of blonde and have lost it all! I could probably tone up! So to the main thing that has annoyed me and want to know if you guys think I'm being silly/insecure. He has linkedin, it's mostly for professionals, my friend had a little look at his profile last week and saw he liked a photo of a rather pretty girl who was celebrating another year at the airline. She wasn't in work clothes. It was a short dress. I got it in there and asked whether liking photos of girls was a red flag to him and he said yes if they are bikini pics but not if they are achievements. I said but couldn't you just say well done to their face, he replied but what if you don't see them. In my head I personally think they should be irrelevant to you, and you don't Really need to like this photo. Anyway. Fast forward few weeks, friend sees so many more photos being "loved" and "liked" by him, all very attractive female cabin crew/pilots. This just doesn't sit right with me. In my eyes it opens a door for possible conversation, its like he's showing himself to them, he's putting himself out there as such. They see his like, they message him and that could lead to more. These people aren't people he's super close to. So I don't really get the need to like it. One girl was sat in a gym.. Please be honest, am I being insecure, would any of you guys be happy with this? Should I just trust him? Sorry it's so long!

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ImFinePMSL · 11/02/2026 22:35

I’m sorry but I think you’re being a bit ridiculous.

Liking a photo on social media is a total non-event. It doesn’t mean anything. You are going to become paranoid.

I sympathise that you feel a little low regarding your appearance, you have a baby and are breastfeeding so be kinder to yourself. Don’t feel like you need to have Botox or a different hair colour to just to seem more attractive to your husband. If you want those things you need to do it for you.

blythet · 11/02/2026 22:39

If it’s colleagues then I don’t see the issue. They’re probably all young and attractive as that’s the nature of the industry.

if it’s not people he either knows or works with (or has worked with previously), I’d be a bit more suspicious as I’d wonder why he was liking random posts of attractive women

NoSoupForU · 11/02/2026 22:41

Well, yes. He's liking posts by or about his colleagues on a work platform.

You need to work on your self esteem for sure, but you've recently had a baby so your hormones and emotions will still be causing you havoc.

summitfever · 11/02/2026 22:42

I have colleagues that like my posts all the time that are happily married and have absolutely no interest in me. I’m conventionally not bad looking, doesn’t mean they all fancy me they’re just bring nice and supportive. Work on your self esteem until
you find something worth being suspicious over, for your own sake.

Poptyping123 · 11/02/2026 22:45

Thanks guys

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RonaldMcDonaldTrump · 11/02/2026 22:49

summitfever · 11/02/2026 22:42

I have colleagues that like my posts all the time that are happily married and have absolutely no interest in me. I’m conventionally not bad looking, doesn’t mean they all fancy me they’re just bring nice and supportive. Work on your self esteem until
you find something worth being suspicious over, for your own sake.

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Are you wearing short dresses in your linkedin posts that your happily married male colleagues like? I think not.
Linkedn is FULL of thirst traps - girls and guys, and "happily married men" do send DMs to flirt with girls so let's not pretend it's a site for professional pats on the back like it's made out to be.
I'm not saying that OP's DH is using it for this, but it's not an irrational assumption by any means, especially if said DH has form or history

summitfever · 11/02/2026 22:55

@RonaldMcDonaldTrump I have an outdoor hobby so in summer at points I’m fairly scantily clad in summer cropped sports stuff with a nice tan and looking well. Some might call it a thirst trap. I call it a snap of me doing what I love in clothing appropriate to the weather. Not everything is posted for male sexual attention, the creeps will message and make themselves known. Most are generally just showing an interest 🤷🏼‍♀️

DoozyDaisy · 11/02/2026 22:59

Short and sweet apparently yet you dragged it out…you just want attention, let’s be real.
much like your assessment of your partner!

aquestionforya · 11/02/2026 23:02

Your friend is fuelling this. Are they jealous of your relationship?

RonaldMcDonaldTrump · 11/02/2026 23:05

summitfever · 11/02/2026 22:55

@RonaldMcDonaldTrump I have an outdoor hobby so in summer at points I’m fairly scantily clad in summer cropped sports stuff with a nice tan and looking well. Some might call it a thirst trap. I call it a snap of me doing what I love in clothing appropriate to the weather. Not everything is posted for male sexual attention, the creeps will message and make themselves known. Most are generally just showing an interest 🤷🏼‍♀️

Genuinely not trying to be rude so sorry if it comes across that way, but is your hobby relevant to your job that you post pictures of it on linkedin? This probably says more about me but if I see women posting pictures on linkedin in revealing outfits with no professional/work context to the post other than a 1 liner to prove a tenuous link, I assume they are looking for attention

Annamariadarling · 11/02/2026 23:05

I hate how unkind the AIBU responders are. Talk about kick a woman while she's down.

OP I know the type of photos you're referring to, and I probably wouldn't feel great if my DP was also regularly liking them either.

It sounds like your partner has a history of being disrespectful to you too, which will only make that feel worse.

My advice is to start doing a little more for yourself, invest in improving your self esteem and boost your confidence ✨️

Poptyping123 · 11/02/2026 23:07

Annamariadarling · 11/02/2026 23:05

I hate how unkind the AIBU responders are. Talk about kick a woman while she's down.

OP I know the type of photos you're referring to, and I probably wouldn't feel great if my DP was also regularly liking them either.

It sounds like your partner has a history of being disrespectful to you too, which will only make that feel worse.

My advice is to start doing a little more for yourself, invest in improving your self esteem and boost your confidence ✨️

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Thank you

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summitfever · 12/02/2026 14:01

@RonaldMcDonaldTrumpi work on mental health so although not directly related, I practice what I preach. Work life balance is key to success so I see no issue posting in this context. I wouldn’t post a night out but I post wholesome content relative to wellbeing. Nobody’s complained this far and it’s posted across several socials that have work colleagues on them

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