Trauma response miss-hearing people

[Traumat1]

Anyone else have anxiety .
I think I have heard people say things ( always negative towards me ) when they haven't. It's causing issues in my life personal and at work.
When I ask my son to confirm if he said something I 100% think he has said, he 100 % says he hasn't..
I trust him

It's destroyed a friendship. I don't know what to do
Is this a know condition , am I being unreasonable

When did it start, is it a response to an actual trauma?

My current foster child does this.

He thinks I call him fat. I absolutely haven't because he isn't and I would never say that to a child. The actual conversation goes on the following lines
Them - I want to go on a diet
Me - I dont think you need to. Just eat healthy, everything in moderation so maybe a few less sweets
Them - why are you calling me fat

On repeat

They are conditioned by their past trauma to hear negative things, its what they expect to hear, so that's what they hear.

I suggest you look for some counselling to work on the trauma you've experienced

Yes this is a thing. I know someone with anger issues unfortunately he won't get himself treated

Yes bullied by mother throughout child hood and teen years.
Easily bullied as a result, low self esteem , people pleaser , abusive adult relationship, but now happily married to a lovely man.
3 years ago seriously bullied at work by gang of mean women who took a dislike , it was a very toxic workplace place I was an easy target.
Resulted in a breakdown and walking out of job. Since then I hear people saying mean things to me in social situations and it seems so genuine . But when I check with someone I trust ( my son or close freind ) it always made up in my head , I feel crippled with hurt when I think I hear this stuff .
Its scary when I find out its in my head
Feel like im going mad !
Had loads of counselling

Are you literally thinking you heard stuff they did not say (eg you think you heard them say “she’s fat” or is it case of they are saying neutral stuff and you are interpreting it as unpleasant?

eg they say “oh gosh you are looking nice today” and you think “oh does that mean I normally don’t look nice”?

one is very different from the other

I used to work with a woman who had the same issues. Back then there was not so much discussion about trauma, but I'm sure that was one of her problems. She became so paranoid that people in our small office were talking about her that not a day went by that she didn't loudly accuse someone of saying something that they absolutely hadn't. We finally had to let her go. She only lasted a few months.

I hear things like

'You haven't got any friends'

'No one likes you'

'You let me down in our time of need'

'We know what you're actually like'

You actually imagine these phrases are coming out of someone’s mouth verbatim, rather than misinterpreting (as in, putting a negative spin on) what they actually are saying?

Yeah it’s a thing.

people often talk about hearing the voice of their mum/whoever saying negative things about them.

often it’s the kind of thing they were told growing up, and that has been internalised.

I often imagine my mother’s critical voice, but I don’t literally hear it. I think that’s an important distinction. OP if you are literally hearing voices then you need to get urgent mental health care. If you are interpreting what other people say in a negative manner then that’s something you will have to work on (with or without help).