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Charity pushing for photo

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trirose · 10/02/2026 20:55

I care for a 55 year old man who has special needs and disabilities. Recently I noticed a charity relevant to one of his disabilities on Facebook offering to give a useful resource to someone in need of one. You had to nominate someone. So I did and was asked to tell the charity about the person I care for. I detailed his situation and how this resource would be used and enjoyed. I was contacted a week later to say my client had been picked to receive the resource. I told his family who were over the moon. I explained how I’d only given his first name so far in and wanted their permission to give more details like address. They agreed to the address. I have arranged to meet the charity representative on Saturday at my clients house for them to handover the resource. The charity have asked if they can take photos of the presentation. I don’t think it’s a good idea as this person is quite vulnerable but I left it to the family to decide and they don’t want photos of their relative on Facebook with details of his disability etc. I emailed the charity who were not happy but said they would respect their wishes. Now I feel uncomfortable about the whole thing. The charity said they like to share photos to show those who have raised money what the money is being spent on. Surely they should understand the need to protect the identities of vulnerable people and preserve their dignity. I’ve offered to write a detailed description of how my clients life will be improved by their generous donation. It feels like it comes with conditions.

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NoSoupForU · 10/02/2026 21:08

Surely they can take photos which aren't identifying so they're being needlessly moody? I get that it's a publicity thing, but the publicity doesn't have to explicitly feature him?!

PunishmentRoundupWithJoon · 10/02/2026 21:12

Could they not take a photo of a member of the man's family or caring team, with a few details about how the resource will help him?

Seawolves · 10/02/2026 21:13

It would be easy for the charity to use non identifying photos if they wanted to.

FlutterShite · 10/02/2026 21:15

I don’t think he even needs to be vulnerable. It’s enough that he and his family don’t want him to be photographed like some kind of fundraising mascot.

pteromum · 10/02/2026 21:16

Picture of the resource. Picture of you. And or family.

job done

AgnesMcDoo · 10/02/2026 21:17

They’ve said they will respect your wishes.

fozziebear2 · 10/02/2026 21:17

I work for a charity. It’s very common for them to want photography but they should, of course, be understanding if the recipients don’t want that. They could easily take a photo of the item with a short write up about how it will help.

7238SM · 10/02/2026 21:33

When you applied for the resource, were there no T&C's explaining the requirements or their preferred wishes from the prize winner. Did it mention photos?

Without knowing if this is a large piece of say gym equipment or a little book, its hard to advise but:
As others have said, a photo with him using the equipment but from behind, showing the resource in his home/garden, the care team or possibly a pic of him as a baby might be options. Obviously, no pics need to be be provided if it wasn't an essential part of the application though.

trirose · 11/02/2026 22:25

7238SM · 10/02/2026 21:33

When you applied for the resource, were there no T&C's explaining the requirements or their preferred wishes from the prize winner. Did it mention photos?

Without knowing if this is a large piece of say gym equipment or a little book, its hard to advise but:
As others have said, a photo with him using the equipment but from behind, showing the resource in his home/garden, the care team or possibly a pic of him as a baby might be options. Obviously, no pics need to be be provided if it wasn't an essential part of the application though.

No there were no terms and conditions.

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trirose · 11/02/2026 22:27

AgnesMcDoo · 10/02/2026 21:17

They’ve said they will respect your wishes.

Yes they have but I know they are disappointed and that makes me uncomfortable.

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trirose · 11/02/2026 22:28

PunishmentRoundupWithJoon · 10/02/2026 21:12

Could they not take a photo of a member of the man's family or caring team, with a few details about how the resource will help him?

This would be identifying and that is something the family do not want.

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Gazelda · 11/02/2026 22:45

There’s no need for you to feel uncomfortable.

they asked (it would have been unusual if they hadn’t wanted some sort of image or story to go alongside the donation) They were told no. They’ve accepted that and not pushed.

you’ve done nothing wrong. Neither has the charity.

BTW, i presume that the man with disabilities doesn’t have capacity to make the choice for himself? Only no one appears to have asked him if he’d be happy to be photographed or not.

HarbourClankCat · 11/02/2026 22:45

It’s fine. Ideally charities will always want a photo but it is really common for either a non identifying photo or a written case study to be done instead.

Don’t worry about it. It’s really common.

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