I have permission to post from my friend as we would like to know we aren't insane.
Just had an incident with a friend of mine. She has been with a man for a year- a friggin year! He has come to family events, mine and my husbands wedding anniversary meal all sorts. She is single with no kids, he has two teenagers.
He travels around alot for work and is quite wealthy (he takes her with him when she isn't working), she's never spoken to the kids as she didn't want to until a couple of years in- but he speaks to them on the phone around her all the time- rings them before bed etc. Anyway...long story short she found out very recently he was STILL WITH HIS wife (she lives in another country (not ME). She also found out she hadn't met his parents because they weren't in fact passed away- they just knew he was married so he could never introduce them.
She messaged the wife and told her out of courtesy what had been happening as my friend and him have recently rented a flat together and he's been saying he will propose etc in the next couple of years once she's happy to meet the kids.
The wife has replied saying she doesn't care- if my friend thinks she doesn't know what he does then she's stupid and she won't be leaving him as she cares too much about the lifestyle he provides. She has also told my friend she is welcome to keep seeing him as it keeps him out of her hair whilst she can spend money on/with friends. She said the more he shags around the more leverage she has to spend his money.
We are baffled people like this exist and are this selfish! Just the man knowing he isn't ever going anywhere and the wife using my unassuming friend as a pawn in her spending game.