Friend is being cat fished

[ThisSharpZebra]

I have a close friend who has told me about a guy she met on a forum.

This was on 2021 and she's since had a baby and been abandoned.

The guy who she was speaking to wouldn't arrange to meet her and they didn't contact via what's app etc it was via a private messaging app KIK and now Snap Chat.

She got back in contact with him and he won't provide a face picture or his phone number. He's supposed to be planning to meet her by the end of the week but he hasn't made any firm plans.

Of course chats become sexual etc and he is promising her a life or being a housewife, well paid.

I just don't know what to do and how to support her

Encourage her to set a deadline by which she has met him in person (with you in the same place potentially at a different table/bench in the park or whatever) and if she hasn’t done so by then, she agrees to block him.

He might be promising her the world but hopefully your friend will realise very quickly that he’s very unlikely to move her into his home as a housewife he fully funds if she’s not even worthy of a photograph or his phone number….!

Why on earth would she want to be a paid housewife to someone she’s never met? That’s glorified prostitution.

So all stay at home mums are prostitutes?

So all stay at home mums are prostitutes?

Thank you. She's blocked him before but they got back in contact. This time he says he will meet but time will tell. I feel so terrible for her, I really think she's vulnerable and autistic

They are if they’ll marry any old Tom, Dick or Harry just because they’ve promised to keep them. She’s never even met him. She doesn’t know him from Adam!

Excuse me?!

Your “friend” sounds too dim to reason with.

People who want strangers to fund their lives may as well be prostitutes, yeah. Nobody said anything about SAHMs.

Make sure he doesn’t ask for money! Get her to watch the online Catsfishing YouTube videos.

Habe you read his texts at all?

That’s a leap and a million!! Is she the mother of his children?

This. She deserves all she gets if she is attracted to being a well paid housewife.

She certainly doesn’t sound like she makes good choices in life

Has she given him any money?

It's probably hard to reason with her if she is holding on to him for 'hope' to better her life in some way. The interesting thing about the Catfish series on TV was people almost wanted to be catfished - it was often years of not meeting someone that they wanted to know the truth.

I would say show your friend examples of people being catfishes, try to get her to live in reality rather than online by taking her out and warn her against giving money to anyone.

She might not listen but you have tried.