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annoyed with friend over stupid toy thing

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kitbit · 15/06/2008 16:12

I know it's only a very small thing, but I HATE injustice. ds got very upset over an incident with his best friend this afternoon, just a petty 3 year old thing about sharing and taking turns, which ds was actually doing really well at today however his friend was being very unkind and quite devious and ds got very upset. I accept these things are often both ways, but today ds was totally in the right, and I think his awareness of injustice was upsetting him. The whole thing could have been easily resolved by bf's mother intervening but she let her ds carry on even though ds was in huge tears. I couldn't step in easily because she was with her ds (on her lap) and I couldn't exactly wade in and confront him in that situation.

Not sure I am expecting answers or advice really, I know what happened etc, but I hate that ache you get when your little one faces something tough, especially when it's not fair, and you really feel for them but can't make it better.
Am thinking of wrapping him up and taking him into the village with a couple of pennies to put in the ride on car outside the cafe, then for an icecream, both of which he considers a real treat. Don't want to make an issue of it being to make up for earlier, but do want to reward him for good sharing himself and cheer him up.

Ho humm. Just needed to share. Thanks for listening, mummies.

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Lollypopzmummy · 15/06/2008 16:21

I think giving hima treat for doing so well at sharing is a good idea.
Personally, in that situation, friend or not, I'd have flown at her for not controlling her kid, especially if he's sat right on her lap. . . it's not like she couldn't see what was going on. Some people just don't care do they?!Ho-hum, be safe in the knowledge that she'll give her boy everything he wants in life, he'll become spoiled and will resent her and become an ASBO kid as he'll jjust get bored of being given everything on a plate (Can you tell I'm on?!! Hormones a-raging! )
xXx

sunnytimes · 15/06/2008 16:30

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kitbit · 15/06/2008 19:20

LOL LPzM!! Sunnytimes that's exactly it, I felt really petty thinking about making a big thing out of it, after all it was about a really small bit of playdoh, hardly worth it, but to ds an important principle of sharing had been violated while he'd kept up his end of the bargain. But you hear in your head how it would sound if you made an issue of it!

We've just got back - we had 2 rides, a sandwich in the cafe for tea, an icecream and a long ride on his scooter in the park. Then we found a small foam rugby ball in the beach shop and I bought it for him for trying so hard with sharing himself today and for being so good while we were out this evening (holding hands for roads without fuss, listening properly, checking for cars, sitting nicely in the cafe etc). He has just gone upstairs for stories with Daddy clutching his ball, and the universe is back in balance.

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